Seems like I do everything house and kid-related, while working, and he acts like I do nothing.
I am sorry. I have been there as well. I finally told him exactly how i felt and told him that i needed his help. I hope things get better.
No he doesn't. When he's upset he might say something hurtful about my procrastination but it's just in anger and he apologizes and assures me that he knows how much I do to contribute to the household. It bugs me at the moment but I do the same so I know he doesn't really mean it.
Well, after 40 years of marriage, I guess we both do. But he is worth every minute of being taken for granted.
I'm pretty spoiled by my husband. It helps that he is on full time kid duty all day on Saturdays, so he gets a pretty good taste of my M-F life. That alone made his perspective a lot more realistic.
He also had a blown disc one summer and ended up having back surgery. It was the most physically miserable thing he's ever experienced. So my pregnancies after that summer he's been super sympathetic to how awful I feel.
For us, it just took a lot of communication and trying to experience what the other is dealing with every day. I'll be honest, I could be a lot more sympathetic toward his stress and the amount of stuff he deals with every day too.
Anyway, hugs mama. I think it is possible to work through it. It just takes work.
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Yes. He works and goes to school FT. We have hard kids. He knows what I go through, but doesnt say much. I have been miserable and depressed for years. He never shows real appreciation.
no, I feel like I take him for granted though
Quoting Malibudreamin: Yes. He works and goes to school FT. We have hard kids. He knows what I go through, but doesnt say much. I have been miserable and depressed for years. He never shows real appreciation.
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