My daughter almost drowned tonight because a friend plays too rough. What would you do?
I feel like "almost drowned" might be a tad extreme but truly it only takes a little bit to really hurt someone. My DD has a friend she met in Kindergarten last year and her family invited us to a parade today, we went, had a great time. Her mom & dad just clicked with me & my hubby. We have the same personalities, it was a really great time. After the parade, we invited them to come over and swim. We have one of those blue pools with the blow up ring, my 3 yr old can stand in it and be ok with swimmies. So the kids were playing in the pool and having a great time, and the adults were 10 feet away sitting around a table with some pizza and some beers. My hubby and I hear "Stop. Stop. Stop! Stooop! STOP!! STOP!!! PLEASE! STOP!! STOP IT!!!" and we look and her friend is hanging on her back and I saw her take her and try to dunk her. She swallowed some water and was pretty upset by the whole ordeal. My hubby had to jump up and yell her friend's name a FEW times before she listened. Needless to say it got pretty awkward for a while after that. I didn't know what to say or do. This isn't the first time this has happened, well, this is the first time with THIS FRIEND, but other instances have occurred where my DD is upset by something her friend is doing, and she asks politely for them to stop, they won't, she gets a little more forceful with her pleas and they STILL won't stop. My girl is a VERY GOOD, WELL MANNERED little girl! Her heart is broken when someone she THINKS is a friend would not treat her with the same respect that she would give them. I mean I know they're only 6 but my girl really has a good mature understanding of what it means to hurt someone, and when the line is drawn, not to cross it, especially if you value that person's friendship in any way.
I am just so sad, I don't know what to do or say, to help my girl through this. She's ok, they moved on and kept playing and had a great time, but that incident makes me feel like I should be teaching her how to defend herself better, but I don't know how. She's doing all the right things but her friends don't listen. :( My hubby wants to teach her to fight but I don't want him undoing the utterly sweet polite child I've raised. She truly makes the world a brighter place just by being in the room. I know I'm her mom, but truly. It just crushes me to see her trust in another friend broken like that. :(
What would you do?