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So tiring! **vent**

Posted by on Jul. 15, 2014 at 7:27 PM
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I'm sooo tired!!

I'm 6 (almost 7mo) pregnant. I'm home alone all day, almost every day, with 3 kiddos (6, 4 and 2) Dh is working 12 hr days 4 days a week. Plus average of 10hr a week at EMT school. Sat he works 4-5 hrs at our church landscapping, and sundays we're at church 8-1. We have 1 vehichle. So i can't go anywhere. When he gets home from work he does no school work, has a few beers and watches tv. Leaving all his school work for his days off, which means no family time. 

On his days off he spends almost the entire time studying and taking his online quizes and tests. And he's barely passing (like literally his average is only 1-2 points over the cut off) Because he is barely passing he's stressed and irritable so the little time we do see him he is usually just grouchy. And then once the kids go to bed he wants to have sex and i'm just so irritated at him and tired from being up all day and stuck in an apartment. 

We're on the third floor, so after 20minutes of getting ready to go outside (bathroom, getting bottles of water, outside toys together etc) and getting outside. Within 30minutes someone has to go to the bathroom (often the 2yo) so all of us have to go back upstairs for another round of bathroom breaks. Or they run out of water or something! It's more work then its worth imo! To go on a walk i've got to bring the stroller down the stairs while leaving the kids upstairs or them down first then come back up for a stroller. The whole task is daunting and i just don't have the energy to even start all that! 

It's definetly making me feel more depressed. (something i already struggled with prior to pregnancy) I don't have the energy to get up early to do yoga, and i have no time during the day to do it. 

I've given up talking to dh about it. He just asks me "well, do you really think you're cut out to be a stay at home mom" "well i don't want my kids to be jipped educationally" Oh thanks for the support of offering to better schedule your time so you can actually be slightly helpful with the emotion, physical and educational well being of your wife and children!

I just feel like all this stress and gas is being wasted beause it's not likely he will pass the course. I don't want to sound unsupportive but i'm sooo over all this! 

And he's only making $10hr! For a family of soon to be 5 that just doesn't cut it! He could make $15/hr if he just went back to CNA but he doesn't like it so he won't do it. 

by on Jul. 15, 2014 at 7:27 PM
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adove01
by Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 7:55 PM

That would be stressful.  Being pregnant does not help how you are feeling either.  I hope things get better.  

cemcnair
by on Jul. 15, 2014 at 7:59 PM
Won't you be a family of 6?
cemcnair
by on Jul. 15, 2014 at 8:00 PM
Hugs!
melindabelcher
by Bronze Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 8:00 PM

ROFL!!!!!  YES! Thank you pregnancy brain!!!

Quoting cemcnair: Won't you be a family of 6?


melindabelcher
by Bronze Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 8:03 PM

Thanks. I'm just so over being alone all the time :(

I'm dreading going back to work with all these kids at home but i know thats what we need financially. Just hope DH will step up. Although i'm likely going to be hiring help from 8-12 on the weekday mornings after i work overnight. 

Quoting cemcnair: Hugs!


cemcnair
by on Jul. 15, 2014 at 8:07 PM
Helping you totally make your point, lol!!

Quoting melindabelcher:

ROFL!!!!!  YES! Thank you pregnancy brain!!!

Quoting cemcnair: Won't you be a family of 6?

melindabelcher
by Bronze Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 8:15 PM

Oy ve! Melinda is a mess today!! 

I'm sooo not the mom/woman/wife i want to be! I question my ability to parent/homeschool etc, but i don't think i'm the "typical" SAHM? I'd like to think many have access to a vehichle/homeschool group/social life etc.  

Quoting cemcnair: Helping you totally make your point, lol!!
Quoting melindabelcher:

ROFL!!!!!  YES! Thank you pregnancy brain!!!

Quoting cemcnair: Won't you be a family of 6?



clairewait
by Bronze Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 10:24 PM

Oh man.

I'm with you, this summer especially. I'm 35 weeks with #4, have a 7, 5, and 18mo old at home.

I've been super tired. My husband doesn't work as much as yours, but he did take about 14 days earlier this month and was traveling.

Have you had your iron checked? I mean. Tiredness is normal, but I was napping like every day (which was making me feel depressed). Then one day my doc called and said my iron was like at 7. He put me on a prescription iron pill and I'm a new woman. Seriously. I can pop one in the afternoon when I'm feeling a slump and it perks me up immediately.

Changed my attitude too. More patience with my kids. More mental clarity. 

I still don't have much energy to clean the house, but I'm getting really creative about getting my kids to help.

melindabelcher
by Bronze Member on Jul. 15, 2014 at 10:42 PM
I haven't had any blood work except at 6-8weeks for my physical with my primary.
I know my thyroid was off in the begining but haven't done the follow up blood work.
I'll mention it to my MW next month.
I'm glad the iron has helped you! I hope mines an easy fix!

Quoting clairewait:

Oh man.

I'm with you, this summer especially. I'm 35 weeks with #4, have a 7, 5, and 18mo old at home.

I've been super tired. My husband doesn't work as much as yours, but he did take about 14 days earlier this month and was traveling.

Have you had your iron checked? I mean. Tiredness is normal, but I was napping like every day (which was making me feel depressed). Then one day my doc called and said my iron was like at 7. He put me on a prescription iron pill and I'm a new woman. Seriously. I can pop one in the afternoon when I'm feeling a slump and it perks me up immediately.

Changed my attitude too. More patience with my kids. More mental clarity. 

I still don't have much energy to clean the house, but I'm getting really creative about getting my kids to help.

3sillykids
by on Jul. 16, 2014 at 7:46 AM

so many things here, but let me start with the yoga (since I am a yoga teacher :)

You can absolutely do yoga with the kids! Do it in front of them. Let them see it. I promise you, they will join in. It may not be the calmest yoga session, but it will be really fun! Plus, you are passing that good habit onto them. And once they learn some cool fun yoga poses, you can start to incorporate meditation, which is a LIFESAVER when you have children!

It will also give you a sense of calm, and make you feel less tired. Once I realized I could do yoga with the kids, it was a game changer :)

Good luck to you!

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