I am working SO hard to get things purged and organized, especially my girls' toys. I have two girls, almost two and almost six and a half. I've been getting help because I ended up so stressed out I was hospitalized so I'm getting extra help right now. My husband doesn't know and he would probably be upset by it since he's not big on that kind of thing (he was against my going in to begin with and going on medication). Anyway, with organizing, it's always been a two steps forward, 5 steps back thing because I would get things organized, have it set up, then DH would be home, I would leave for a day to take care of errands and come home to the place being completely and totally undone. DH CLEANS. He does not organize, AT ALL. Not to mention, he has the short term memory of a fish (I'm starting to call him Dory because of this, I kid you not). He cleaned the bathroom the other night. And yes, I'm aware I should probably appreciate these kinds of things but he lost the bar of soap that was out. He doesn't remember what he did with it at all. And he doesn't seem to care. This isn't a $1 bar of soap either. I had gotten it originally for bath soap for my older daughter who has eczema and so it was an over $5 bar of soap at a shop that had odd hours and isn't the easiest to get to so there's the money and effort to consider as well. It was more than half used but still plenty left and it's gone and he has no idea where it went, can't remember at all what he did with it and this is not the first time he's done something like this. I feel I need to have someone watching him when I leave him home alone with the girls on Fridays (he has off on Fridays which is when I have my appointments and errands) because he just totally derails everything I spend the entire week working on and by the time Sunday rolls around again, I'm all stressed out because the place is all messed up again. At least it's not looking quite as bad as it has in the past because this time I'm sending stuff out with the person who is helping me instead of just putting stuff away, I'm getting rid of stuff but still, it's getting REALLY frustrating and I can't get that through to him at all. When he cleans, he just throws stuff in boxes or bags and puts it aside, no organizaing at all. Grr!
Wife to John since 2003, Mom to Natalie (6), and Isabelle born July 20, 2010.