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Should students be allowed to cross-dress at school?

Posted by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 2:26 PM
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Virginia school district considers cross-dressing ban for students

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Published February 09, 2012

A Virginia school district is considering banning cross-dressing by students, out of what one board member called concerns for the safety of "several" male students who wear dresses and wigs to school.

The Suffolk Board of Education plans to take up the issue at a meeting Thursday night, amid criticism that such a ban would violate students' First Amendment rights. The proposal explicitly bans clothing "not in keeping with a student's gender," distracts others from the educational process or poses health concerns. Board members will not vote on the proposal, which would take effect next year if approved.

"So there's plenty of time for discussion," district spokeswoman Bethanne Bradshaw told FoxNews.com.

Bradshaw said the proposal stems from concerns raised by Board Vice Chairwoman Thelma Hinton, who cited reports during a recent board meeting about male students who wore feminine clothing last year and had to use faculty restrooms due to safety concerns.

Hinton, who did not immediately return requests for comment on Thursday, told MyFox43tv.com the problem was brought to her attention by teachers. She said she knows of several male students who wore makeup, wigs and dresses to class.

"My main concern is [the] safety of those individuals," Hinton told the station. "Freedom of expression is good, but there is a limitation. Anytime there is a threat upon a child, to me, that's where you draw the line of freedom of expression."

Bradshaw said district officials, to her knowledge, had not received any complaints regarding the potential change. But some students in the district and local civil liberties organizations believe the matter is a "clear First Amendment issue" that ultimately will not be instituted.

John Whitehead, an attorney and president of the Rutherford Institute, a Virginia-based civil liberties group, said the U.S. Supreme Court has ruled that students can express themselves with clothing as long as it doesn't cause a "substantial" disruption in school. He cited previous cases in which white students were barred from wearing Confederate flag T-shirts in predominantly African-American schools as an example of a substantial disruption.

"But a kid wearing a dress or something, or a girl wearing a tuxedo, most kids today don't care," Whitehead told FoxNews.com. "So it wouldn't cause a substantial disruption. To me, it's a clear First Amendment issue. It's ridiculous."

Whitehead said board members will have to prove that wearing nongender-specific clothing will cause a significant disruption in or out of the classroom, particularly if it leads to some sort of violence. He said discussions he's had with teachers in the district revealed that the proposal is coming from "one or two teachers" in the district, rather than students themselves.

"The students don't care, it's one or two teachers," he said. "We have to teach them that they have these [First Amendment] rights or else they'll grow up and think they don't have them. Today, gender is a subjective thing."

Whitehead said he thinks the "overly vague" proposal will ultimately be slowed down due in part to "bad press" the district has received since the proposal was drafted.

In addition to clothing "not in keeping with a student's gender," the 13-point student dress regulation proposal also seeks to ban sexually suggestive attire, sagging pants, any article of clothing that advertises alcohol or an illegal substance, clothing with slogans or words across the buttocks, sleepwear and head covering unless worn for religious or medical reasons.

Suffolk Public Schools, located in Suffolk, Va., serves more than 14,000 students in 19 schools, including 12 elementary and three high schools.

Sean Artis, a senior at King's Fork High School, said he believes the proposal is wrong, saying "people express themselves" in different ways. Artis said a former classmate who was opened gay dressed in women's clothing every day to school -- and was never a distraction.

"I've talked with the guy and he's perfectly fine," Artis told MyFox43tv.com. "There is nothing wrong with him. It's just the way he feels and if he feels he can express himself that way, he should."

Messages seeking comment from Superintendent Deran Whitney and other school board members were not immediately returned early Thursda



Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/02/09/virginia-school-district-considers-ban-on-cross-dressing-students/#ixzz1lukrPQed

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emilyrosenj
by Margaret on Feb. 9, 2012 at 2:58 PM
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As long as they use the correct restroom, to each his own!

chichiwvu
by Laura on Feb. 9, 2012 at 4:44 PM
I'm not sure how I feel about this. On one hand I don't think they should be kept from wearing dresses if they are seriously transgender. However, the only boys who I knew in HS to wear skirts or dresses did so for laughs, and it was definitely a distraction. A lot of schools won't allow pink hair, and if that is the case, I could see those schools not allowing the opposite gender clothing.

I'd be curious to know why, if the students seriously felt so threatened they wanted to use faculty restrooms, they decide to continue to dress that way?
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maxswolfsuit
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2012 at 7:04 PM


Quoting chichiwvu:

I'm not sure how I feel about this. On one hand I don't think they should be kept from wearing dresses if they are seriously transgender. However, the only boys who I knew in HS to wear skirts or dresses did so for laughs, and it was definitely a distraction. A lot of schools won't allow pink hair, and if that is the case, I could see those schools not allowing the opposite gender clothing.

I'd be curious to know why, if the students seriously felt so threatened they wanted to use faculty restrooms, they decide to continue to dress that way?

Pretty much sums up what I was thinking. 

KG34
by on Feb. 10, 2012 at 9:34 AM
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In my experience, the only time someone dressing differently or having their hair done differently becomes a distraction is when some teacher decides to make a big deal out of it. My son went to school for a month with a bright red streak in his hair, before anyone said anything. When I was in high school kids would come to school with green hair, purple hair, etc. and nobody cared. It didn't cause any problems. No classes were disrupted.

timon95
by Betty on Feb. 10, 2012 at 10:22 PM

i think it would be a distraction to other students

SoCalovin
by New Member on Feb. 10, 2012 at 10:36 PM
If they are transgendered then yes.
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maxswolfsuit
by Silver Member on Feb. 11, 2012 at 10:48 AM


Quoting KG34:

In my experience, the only time someone dressing differently or having their hair done differently becomes a distraction is when some teacher decides to make a big deal out of it. My son went to school for a month with a bright red streak in his hair, before anyone said anything. When I was in high school kids would come to school with green hair, purple hair, etc. and nobody cared. It didn't cause any problems. No classes were disrupted.

It also has a lot to do with the child. If kids want to draw attention by dressing differently they can cause a huge commotion. 

When I taught sixth grade one of the girls used Sharpie markers to make streaks all over her hair. It was a huge big deal. One of the other girls had been doing it for months and none of the kids cared. Dramatic kids can definitely use their attire to cause a disruption. 

sweetmissy_05
by New Member on Feb. 11, 2012 at 11:53 AM

I think i t should be allowed......

kirbymom
by Sonja on Feb. 11, 2012 at 12:49 PM

 I personally don;t think it right but I'm going to go with the student who is a rebel without a cause just because he can, side of this issue.  I remember students wearing jean jackets with the rebel flags flying on them and teachers and principles didn't like it because it didn't fit their ideal style of dress.  These students were beileved to be trying to cause a stir just for the fun of it.  In some ways, they were but, I also think it was just to find a style that they were comfortable with that didn't come from their parents. Just like a lot of kids today.  Same reasons. So if you want to dress that way, go ahead. Just use the right restroom.

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by Bronze Member on Feb. 11, 2012 at 2:44 PM

If the student is transgender (or in the process of becoming transgender), yes. It boggles my mind how violence can be incited by the mere fact that a person is dressing in an unconventional manner (whether by choice or not is irrelevant) or that violence is committed upon this person. And I think the suggestion that this individual should refrain from cross-dressing in order to maintain his/her physical safety lays the blame on the (potential) victim rather than the perpetrator. How about people exercise respect and learn to leave the cross-dresser alone and not beating up on this person?

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