I've been parenting for almost 10 years. Our first child was special needs and most of our 13 (soon to be 17) have special needs. I was reading the introductions and most of you have very young children. I read one where the lady sounded so discouraged in particular. I decided I needed to share with you what I've learned. Are you ready (lol) . . . . . . .
Doctors, therapists, and other professionals HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOUR CHILD CAN REALLY ACCOMPLISH!!! They just don't know anything about the future. They give you a guess. They are usually wrong.
I've had kids accomplish so much more than I was told that they could.
Zeeky is 6. At three years old when he came to us he was completely nonverbal and they said he would never talk. His autism was SEVERE. He was SEVERELY mentally retarded. He only ate poptarts and cereal bars (bc the foster parents didn't want to try anything else) and took a bottle regularly with no use of a sippy at all. NOW he has been reading sight words for over a year. He knows all his phonics sounds. He can name all of his shapes, including octagons. He knows his colors, numbers, and letters. Nothing about him is SEVERE.
He is just one example out of so many here.
Please be encouraged. Don't let people tell you the limits. Keep giving your kids all the opportunities and never underestimate them. They CAN do so much more than people know. God gave you that specific child with those specific challenges and GIFTS. Your child can do things that no one else can. They will change things in you that you never knew were possible. They are going to have a great purpose. Teach them that God made them special and that He has a plan for them. Don't feel sorry for them or teach them to pity or feel bad for their differences. Teach them that they were made for a purpose! THEY REALLY WERE!!!! I know that "special needs kids" are one of God's greatest gifts. They have some challenges, but the rewards will far outweigh them. :)