I didn't lose friends that way. I just didn't have time to keep up my friendships. Lina took a lot of care, then the testing to see what the problem was, then 1/2 days in school, drs, etc. Right now I really have no friends and with everything that is currently going on with all the kids, & dh I only get alone time when I leave to go do errands & then only if I can get Lina to stay at home. Things are getting worse with her behaviors so I am damned if I take her and damned if I leave her at home.
My Second time around & loving it! Lina
I've lost friends, gained friends, and figured out my true friends. It's a roller coaster, but I'd so much rather have my kids than my friends.
I have friends with and without kids who just dont understand why I can't just call a babysitter or get the kids in the car and go somewhere. I have made so many friends with special needs children. And I have found my friends who have stuck around and helped me through it.
I've become withdrawn from my friends with NT children. On the other hand, I have made new friends with moms who have children with various disabilities. My ASD son's best friend is a boy who was born completely deaf. I love hanging out with the boy's mom and dad. They totally "get it", KWIM?
Yes and no. After we had our son (13yrs old now) I did lose a lot of friends... I think they were very uncomfortable with him and didn't know what to say. I heard, "Doesn't that just break your heart?" all the time. No, it didn't break my heart. I love my son very much and my hubby and I have always looked at him as a blessing, a gift, not as a child to "break my heart." I gained friends though too... other moms of special needs children. I have to say that is something that definitely changed my life. With moms of MHDD children, I don't care at all what their religion is or political view or parenting style is... there is a common thread between us that Trumps everything else. The moms I know in "real life" I can honestly say that I understand. And they can say the same to me. Even though my son may not have the same issues, I truly get where they are coming from. And when the say, "I understand" to me, I know they actually understand. I don't know if that makes sense or not, but it does to me. :)
No, my friends love Nathan and have been nothing but supportive of all of us.
It is amazing who stands by you and who doesn't. I lost a few, but others came out of the woodwork. So, I feel lucky not to take it to personally. It is hard, sometimes, family doesn't understand why I spent sooooo much time in school and not abort when I had the chance. I knew before baby was born she would have down syndrome. My daughter is now 16 yrs. old and a great kid. I feel lucky.
Yes they call my dd a brat and not disciplined :(
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