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Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 6:10 PM
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 I am hoping to meet moms that are raising a child with ADHD. I have a 6 year old (step) son with it. His dad and I have full custody of him. How do you disapline a child who you know has a behaviorial problem? I studied Special Ed in college but it is different when it is your own child.

by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 6:10 PM
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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Feb. 12, 2012 at 7:34 PM

You're so right mama!  It's SO different when it's your child.  Welcome to the group!  I don't know much about ADHD, but my son has Cystic Fibrosis, Autism, Aarskog Syndrome, & Brain Abnormalities/Damage, so he has some behavior problems (he's 3), and we're learning how to handle the tantrums currently.  It's hard, but stay strong mama!  Welcome and there are some other ladies in the group with experience in this and they'll respond soon:)

mandee1503
by Amanda on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:59 PM

Welcome to the group! There is some moms here, and I'll bump this so they will see! :)

darciaT
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:52 AM

Hi.  I am a mom of two boys.  One is add (18), more disorganized talks alot.  My youngest, (12) is adhd.  Positive reinforcement works best for these kids.  Try using a reward based sticker on chart type system.  Earns so many stickers, get a reward.  Doesn't have to be a big one, just something he would like.  Mine liked the dollar store.  Or if he did well in store, he got a toy from those toy machine things at the door. Work on one or two things at a time.   Punishments should be short periods of time.   I found taking something away for awhile works the best.  Or if they are having a meltdown, just going someplace quiet to settle down works wonders. 

Darcia

FoxxyMama1
by Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 8:06 AM

I think the real question is... is it a behavioral problem or an issue being caused by his ADHD.  One of the things that can be so challenging (especially with boys with ADHD) is their lack of impulse control.  My son goes from 0-60 in no time flat behaviorally.  Sometimes he's just being a 6.5 year old boy and sometimes it's the ADHD rearing it's ugly head.  I've found that offering choices and letting my son deal with the consequences of those choices is helpful along with time outs when things escalate to the point of no return.  Every child responds differently to different parenting styles.

 

I think the best decision we made was to enlist the assistance of a behavioral therapist who is teaching us to effectively parent our son/

singlemotherof8
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 10:39 AM

Hi, my granddaughter i am raising has ADHD and autism and other behavior problems. I feel the same as you. Out of 8 children it happens that her mother had ADHD also but her biological father had bi poplar and something else also. Try all different things and go with what works the best. As for my granddaughter i haven't found the right thing that works. Hope something works for you and soon.

Alex825
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 2:05 PM

My son has ADHD, but I was really lucky with his behavior issues. I mean he has them, however it was nothing that I cant handle. I found a sense of humor to be my best defense. counting to 10 before responding,(he is looking for pos or neg) and lots of love. Sounds like he is pushing your buttons to see where your boundries are. Stick to your rules. My son is is sensitive to noise, and is very disruptive w/o his meds. Sounds like the your lil guy has had a rough go to start with. Now its all on you to fix and be his "mom" All kids in his situation will push, and push to see how far he can go. Best of luck

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Feb. 13, 2012 at 5:56 PM

Glad these ladies are able to help you out mama!

CEM031402
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:51 PM

Than k you. I will try to stay strong. The hard part is also that since he is my "step"son (and I use quites cause he has been in my care full time since he was 8 months old). I feel bad that he is paying the price of what he biological mom did during pregnancy (drank, and got high daily). So, it is hard to disapline him cause I know it is not his fault and being my stepson (even though I am his mom figure) is hard cause I dont want him to dislike me as he is older.



CEM031402
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:54 PM

Thank you. I will keep trying positive reinforcement. The hard part is making sure his dad uses it too.


CEM031402
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 11:56 PM

Yeah it is hard to know if it is his age or his ADHD. I will have to talk to his school's behavioral speciallist. That is a good idea. I have talked to the spcialist a few times randomly (I work at the school too), but I will make an offical meeting with him. Thank you.

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