Last nite was 2nd Grade Conference. As expected, Mike is doing well academically. Writing is really improving, still no "voice' to it, but he is atleast writting something. Then it hit - Mike was lowered from a level 2 in his Behaviour Plan (participate in all things, no perks) to a Level One (no recess, lunch in office, no assemblies or field trips for 2 wks or until he achieves 83% in his daily work (he has 30 pts he can earn during the day) for two weeks. He was trying to control a game (as usual) and his friends chose to exclude him. So he said "I am going to kill you". Well, someone tattled. So now he has a Level 4 behavioural in his file. We spoke about it, and Mike is embarassed He couldnt even repeat what he said he was so upset at himself. He did say he tried to hold it in and couldnt. The teacher told me "he just will have to suck it up and do the work". He looks normal. She doesnt see sensory (he is chewing all day long on his necklaces and the connectors if he has chewed thru a necklace). She is not prompting him to do his wall pushups, and she is IMO bullying him. She keeps saying "defiant and manipulative".
So I left with "at least he is doing well academically, and you obviously dont understand sensory seeking behaviour". Ugh. Well, she was getting the benefit of the doubt until last nite. I am done being nice. I will be requesting an IEE (they did not do a full eval for the IEP and did not include a speech and language professional). I have given this time and he is sinking deeper and deeper. My DH wont let me homeschool, and we dont have any charter schools close. On the other hand, I wonder how many kids are being bullied by teachers. He looks normal, but he is undx'd Aspergers. We are working on the dx now (been a long processs with limited local resources....).
Thanks for letting me vent. I hate he has to struggle like this.
I'm not crazy....I have two boys.....roflmbo....
I love my Sensational DS1 and my Boysterous DS2...both born preemie, full term breastfed, until they self weaned. I am a Lactivist, a CubScout Den Leader, Self employed, and still take the time to be my Children's Attachment Parenting Mom and my DH's Girlfriend. My DH is my best friend. :)