Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Raising Special Needs Kids Raising Special Needs Kids

How did you decide to have another child after knowing you had a Special Needs child?

Posted by on Apr. 18, 2012 at 11:28 PM
  • 22 Replies

Hi,

I am new to this group and thought it would be a great place to post a question that I have been thinking about.   I have 2 little boys, one 7 and the other 4.  My oldest son has Autism, and my youngest is typically developing.    I got pregnant with my youngest without realizing my situation with my oldest.  Even with all the challenges,  I love both of them unconditionally, and can't imagine my life without them.   I always wanted 3 babies, but the thought of having a 2nd Special Needs child scared me a bit.  I was wondering how other parents decided on having another child after knowing one of their children had a disability.  Are you happy with the decision (either way)?    I am curious to hear what others have to say, as I am increasingly feeling I would like to have another baby, but at times feel torned about the decision.

Thanks!

by on Apr. 18, 2012 at 11:28 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
mandee1503
by Amanda on Apr. 19, 2012 at 1:21 AM

My sn little man is the baby, but we have talked seriously about having a third. We have figured that his isn't genetic, so the likelihood of another sn kid is low. I am torn, while I worry the baby won't get enough attention, I also really want another baby.

Welcome, and I'm sure there are plenty of moms here who can give a more definite answer. :)

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Apr. 19, 2012 at 4:58 AM
1 mom liked this

Welcome to the group:)  We only have one child...obviously he has special needs...we aren't having any more though...just a personal decision we made a long time ago:)

natesmom1228
by on Apr. 19, 2012 at 8:18 AM
1 mom liked this


Quoting darbyakeep45:

Welcome to the group:)  We only have one child...obviously he has special needs...we aren't having any more though...just a personal decision we made a long time ago:)

Same here. My decision to have only one child had nothing to do with my sons SN, it was something I always knew.

lilfishbigocean
by on Apr. 19, 2012 at 3:23 PM

 I have 2 girls, my youngest DD has some special needs.. We aren't having anymore just because we've always talked about 2 being enough..

You should sit down with your DH and talk about a pros vs. cons list. Take in all of the opinions that you get, but overall - it has to be a decision that you and your DH make together. Good luck :)

willysmama
by on Apr. 19, 2012 at 4:18 PM

My husband and I are trying for a second child.  My son is special needs. we have wanted a 2nd child for awhile.

jjamom
by Michele on Apr. 19, 2012 at 5:10 PM
My son with SN is my youngest of three and we had planned on 3, so I didn't have to make that decision.

I think I probably would have if he were our first or maybe our second child. He did have a lot of medical issues that were very time consuming and overwhelming when he was younger - up to about age 3, though, so it would probably have had to wait until then.
Jjmill5
by on Apr. 20, 2012 at 7:24 AM
1 mom liked this
I just had my 3rd baby, my first had the issues too. I never thought about it, I believe I can handle whatever comes my way.
Cassidysmom611
by Member on Apr. 20, 2012 at 7:32 AM

This is a great question. DH and I are having such discussions as we speak. My youngest is special needs, and too be honest I am not sure what to do. DH and I both want another child but we are not sure of to the ex-tenet of our DDs needs , so we are waiting to make any decisions while we discuss things with the specialists at CCSN in Boston. It is a decision we are torn on as well, and I can so appreciate where you are coming from.

cbs994
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:45 AM

Thanks for all the replies!  It is nice to know I am not the only one dealing and thinking about this issue.  

cbs994
by on Apr. 22, 2012 at 11:47 AM

BUMP!

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)