He finds stuff to whine about! Tonight he wanted a drink and was in our bed. We gave it to him and he barely took a sip and was done. He whined and whined and whined for the last 30 minutes that he wanted us to go in there and put it on the nightstand next to him. The nightstand is the same level as the bed and right next to it and he puts his food and drinks there all the time! He can reach just fine! Other examples before this tube stuff are he will be laying in our bed with his blanky next to him and he will whine and cry until we go in and put it on him! Then he'll take it off and whine til we put it back! There are times he will refuse to eat unless we spoon feed it to him! He will whine he wants to play his game, we ask him if he wants to play it and he says no so we say ok and he throws a fit saying he wants it! He purposely refuses to do anything if we're ok with it! Like the game, we tell him he can play and then he throws a fit. He gets pissed over everything! Now he is refusing to leave the house! It started in the hospital, he refused to leave his room and then when he couldn't leave (needed meds, seeing drs, or waiting to go to a test or waiting for family to visit) he wanted to and would throw an all out fit. Monday afternoon he wouldn't stop whining over I don't know what, I had dh talk to him over the phone and dh asked him "are you gonna be a good boy?" and he said no and dh told him he needs to be and then we had to go to a test (he didn't know the test was coming cuz it was last minute and it was just a upper gi so he drank kool aide barium, he even liked it) and he screamed, cried, and whined and repeated over and over "I want daddy good boy" meaning he wanted to call daddy and have daddy ask him if he will be a good boy so he could say yes. Just before they came for the test I called dh back to let Ty do that but he threw a fit cuz he was getting what he wanted and then they took us to his test. He whined, cried, and screamed repeating the same phrase for 25 minutes! By the time we got to radiology I was a bawling mess. I had 3 hours of sleep and nothing I did or said could get him to stop and everyone kept staring at us or trying to figure out what was wrong but they didn't understand. Ty just keeps going! He will fixate on something for HOURS and scream, whine, and cry. We try to give it to him and he then says no and fixates on defying us no matter what.
We can't handle it anymore. No amount of ignoring, time outs, or giving in, NOTHING, stops it.