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Posted by on May. 22, 2012 at 7:50 AM
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So I was wondering your opinion you guys. Do you think if someone is bipolar that they are special needs? This is their only possible diagnosis. It's not cupped with something else. I run a daycare and one of the mom's that I had released last night said that her son was special needs. I corrected her and said that I didn't think her son was special needs (she said that as a mother of a special needs child I should be more patient with her son) which I was! BUT he was getting so up and down that he was hurting other kids and as a day care owner I cannot allow that to happen. But as a mother of a child that is multiple dx I do not think that him being bipolar means he's special needs. You would not call an adult with bipolar special needs. So why would you consider your child to be too?
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by on May. 22, 2012 at 8:02 AM
After talking to a friend I see it is. And looking up a definition. I guess I'm mad at the whole situation.
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by on May. 22, 2012 at 10:33 AM
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i will be honest with you...
i think there is different levels of special needs.   Not one child is the same with their special needs and it takes time to learn those special needs.   I for the longest time never thought of my 12 yr old with adhd as sn...     I use to be a single working mother when she first started school..  i didn't notice her special needs because i pushed aside and put myself into the working world.    I became married to current dh...  i gained full time manager position in my work and kept getting fustrated because i was missing the simple things for my DD...    Finally i think god knocked me on my butt and said LOOK....   by the way i lost my job which at the time felt like a heart break for the family but i now know there was a reason for god doing what he did. "

My daughter is sn..    she has fallen between the cracks in school and we had hit a wall this year in school.    We have always kept her a float but i now know in the past two years that i have became a sahm that she has been emotionally forgotten to  the point that there is no emotion in her life.   The consequences did not effect her and she now feels like a failure because that is all she has been told in life by the school and the punishments that she received for her behavior.   She has special needs even if she only has ADHD........... i have learned to stop and take the time not only with her but all my children..    just two out of 4 of my children have some extra special needs  that have to be attended to more then the other two.  
I honestly think just because there is less dx on a child doesn't mean they don't need something special.    My daughter actually only has Adhd as a dx.. but i see so much more needs in her then anyone has realized.   Its always been pushed to the side because the school let her slip and i allowed it due to working so much. 

As for her making that comment about you having more patiences with her son.   I would of probably said ....."okiee your right I tried my best but i guess i have to try harder what might you suggest"      I then would probably be searching every thing i could to help this child more when he has his ups and downs..   especially to keep everyone safe.    I know having a child with more special needs has to be hard..  or having couple two different children with special needs is hard.   Trust me i am just learning how to balance the life of counseling and OT along with This specialist and that specialist.   I mean two weeks ago i had an appt with with 4 different areas of the body and 3 different hospitals for each of my 4 different completely kids two with special needs.    Its hard to balance things when one is having a up and down day.   My 5 yr old oh boy he was just cryign and screaming the other morning because of his shoes............ YES HIS SHOES!!  and i had my 13 yr old grumbling because she was goin to be late for school.    Its a balance act.. and alls we can do is our best.    I wish u luck.. :)    

by Ruby Member on May. 22, 2012 at 10:53 AM

to me bi-polar is special needs - at any age

by on May. 22, 2012 at 12:16 PM
A physiological disorder is special needs as I understand it. It can be difficult because it us hard to understand and to control but I would consider it as special needs. This child might have other issues as well. But because of his age they have not been dx'd. Also your daycare center might not be the best place for him. Have they looked at school placements that take children with his condition?
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by on May. 22, 2012 at 12:31 PM

They are considering whether to dx my daughter as bipolar.  Her moods changes are incredible and often unpredictable.  She has also hurt people.  It can be absolutely exhausting trying to keep up and keep her calm if possible.  As far as the child you've watched, it sounds like being surrounded by other children was not the best enviornment for him. 

 I looked up the definition of "special needs" and found that this refers to a child who is "physically, developmentally or emotional disabled" I love this group, but I admit that there have been times I've thought - wow, my problems seem so small in comparison, maybe I'm in the wrong group.  I don't have to deal with many of the struggles that so many of you do.  But on the other hand, I have one who lives in pain.  My other DD does not have a physical problem necessarily but her emotional/mental instability has caused her to not be able to handle traditional schooling, as well as to spend a night in the ER because she wanted to die - she's 8.  I hate labelling my children, but they are both special needs, even though their problems are very different.

by on May. 22, 2012 at 1:20 PM


by on May. 22, 2012 at 2:07 PM
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Yea I would have to honestly say, he is special needs. Only because he requires a certain level of attention, which is different from other children. As we grow into adults we learn how to cope with our issues, right now this child just doesn't know what to do with his self. 

by on May. 22, 2012 at 2:09 PM
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I think it depends on the severity of the bipolar. I know some with it that you would never know they had it. Others that cannot function even when medicated.
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by on May. 22, 2012 at 3:17 PM

Bipolar is generally not diagnosed at such a young age.

by on May. 22, 2012 at 3:20 PM
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I think so.

My brother has bipolar and it's very very very hard to deal with. For him and for his family. He has a hard time keeping a Job or an apartment. It'd be the same for any other adult with other special needs, right? He can't function without medication. His life is totally altered by it.

So I think yes, it's a special need.
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