Today has been the day from hell.
I can't get him to behave. I can't get him to reason. I can't get him to listen. The littlest thing, don't bite your fingernails, set him off on a 45 min tangit.
Dinner was early tonight. I asked him to pick up and come sit. He tried to sit on my oldest and I said not to and to sit on the floor. He threw himself down kicking and screaming. He got a warning then sent to the corner. Where he proceeded to scream and kick. I gave 3 warnings and sent him to get undressed. He threw himself down in the laundry room. I had to remove his clothes put on his pull up and send him to bed while trying to avoid being hit, kicked, punched, pinched, or bitten.
I sent him to bed at 5:45 pm. I've sent him to bed. No movie. No snack. No second chance today.
But I feel so disgustingly guilty. I want to go get him up.
But I know I need to stick to it. I have absolutely had it today.
But... I'm second guessing myself. :(
Big hugs mama! I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son. Not sure if this has been asked before, but have you seen a behavior therapist? My son is Autistic and in ABA therapy (applied behavioral analysis) for 8 hours each week. He has some difficult behaviors at times, though nothing to the extent of what you deal with, but his therapist is of great help to us during those times! Just thought I'd ask:)
This is my stepson. But I've got him full time.
My eldest is SN. I should be used to these fits. But its so different with my ss.
Quoting darbyakeep45:Big hugs mama! I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son. Not sure if this has been asked before, but have you seen a behavior therapist? My son is Autistic and in ABA therapy (applied behavioral analysis) for 8 hours each week. He has some difficult behaviors at times, though nothing to the extent of what you deal with, but his therapist is of great help to us during those times! Just thought I'd ask:)
How does your husband handle these situations? Or is he at work during most of them?
Quoting DeirdraG.:
Not yet. We just had his school assessments done. But bc school ends in 2 days I've got to go through the pedi.
This is my stepson. But I've got him full time.
My eldest is SN. I should be used to these fits. But its so different with my ss.
Quoting darbyakeep45:Big hugs mama! I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son. Not sure if this has been asked before, but have you seen a behavior therapist? My son is Autistic and in ABA therapy (applied behavioral analysis) for 8 hours each week. He has some difficult behaviors at times, though nothing to the extent of what you deal with, but his therapist is of great help to us during those times! Just thought I'd ask:)
But honestly? He gets worse with daddy doing it.
SO is special needs. He has learning disabilities. So I think its hard for him. He tries. But he blames himself.
Quoting darbyakeep45:How does your husband handle these situations? Or is he at work during most of them?
Quoting DeirdraG.:
Not yet. We just had his school assessments done. But bc school ends in 2 days I've got to go through the pedi.
This is my stepson. But I've got him full time.
My eldest is SN. I should be used to these fits. But its so different with my ss.
Quoting darbyakeep45:Big hugs mama! I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son. Not sure if this has been asked before, but have you seen a behavior therapist? My son is Autistic and in ABA therapy (applied behavioral analysis) for 8 hours each week. He has some difficult behaviors at times, though nothing to the extent of what you deal with, but his therapist is of great help to us during those times! Just thought I'd ask:)
Oh I see....:( I'm sorry mama! My heart goes to you and I hope you get some help soon! Have you scheduled an appointment with the pedi so you can get some referrals going for therapy?
Quoting DeirdraG.:
SO works overnights. But he stayed up later today trying to help me.
But honestly? He gets worse with daddy doing it.
SO is special needs. He has learning disabilities. So I think its hard for him. He tries. But he blames himself.
Quoting darbyakeep45:How does your husband handle these situations? Or is he at work during most of them?
Quoting DeirdraG.:
Not yet. We just had his school assessments done. But bc school ends in 2 days I've got to go through the pedi.
This is my stepson. But I've got him full time.
My eldest is SN. I should be used to these fits. But its so different with my ss.
Quoting darbyakeep45:Big hugs mama! I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son. Not sure if this has been asked before, but have you seen a behavior therapist? My son is Autistic and in ABA therapy (applied behavioral analysis) for 8 hours each week. He has some difficult behaviors at times, though nothing to the extent of what you deal with, but his therapist is of great help to us during those times! Just thought I'd ask:)
The last four sentences is what I would say!!
Quoting myfirstborn04:
Hugs momma! Sounds like my son. I just took him off his anxiety and ocd meds and it's been chaos here. I am still waiting on my son's evaluation by the Chrysalis center from which he has been getting behavioral therapy. He definitely has ocd but there's more going on. Take it one day at a time. Be consistent and don't second guess yourself. Your doing great! Take care and hope you have a blessed evening.
Punishment is way harder on us parents then the kids. I don't think there has ever been a time in 17 years of parentingparenting that I didn't feel guilt over a punishment.
who do you let watch your kids ?
- DeirdraG.
on Jun. 18, 2012 at 5:58 PM