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He's driving me insane! Help!

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 4:29 PM
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My 5 year old is very smart.  He does have most like spd, he has anxiety disorder, and he has a hard time understanding the cues from his body.

Our problem is food.  He is tall and skinny at 45" and 37 lbs so I don't worry about him getting "fat" or anything.  What I do worry about is the fact he will eat and eat until his stomach hurts.  He just doesn't know when to stop!  So I really have to monitor his food.  It was discovered at 18 months he would overeat but nobody could tell me why.  A pediatric GI just told me to not let him eat so much because he was hurting himself (he could eat a 6" subway sandwich and still ask for more).  At that point we established a food routine with him.  9:00 breakfast, 12:00 lunch, 3:00 snack, 6:00 dinner.  It has not changed since then.

The problem is I put a plate of food in front of him at mealtimes and it's "it's not enough!!  I need more!!  it's not enough food!!" (note he eats more than I do).  We get in the van and it's "I'm hungry!!  I need to eat!!  We didn't have snack yet!!" (right after he had 3 bowls of rice, beans, lettuce, and tomatoes last night and yes, he had a large snack at snack time).  No matter how much he has eaten the moment he sits in a vehicle it's a complete fit that he is starving and we are withholding food.  There's just certain times of the day or certain things that we do that trigger his "hunger" even though I know he is not actually hungry.  If I feed him more than he gets now sure enough his stomach starts to hurt.

I've tried rewards for waiting patiently for the next meal. I've tried schedules.  I've tried timers.  But nothing is working for him!  

How in the world do I stop this?


Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.  ~Mildred B. Vermont
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 4:29 PM
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T-HoneyLuv
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 5:33 PM
No advice! Bump!
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willysmama
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 6:55 PM

My son is like that. Its worse when he is on a growth spurt. I have no advice. We have been filling him with applesauce, yogurt and graham crackers with water and milk and juice. It curbs his appetite a little. And in the car we have fruit snacks and graham crackers

Nicholy10
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 7:05 PM

Gum? If it's spd, maybe he just likes chewing and oral things? It's a guess... what about giving him gum or hard candies between meals? Mints? 

Other than that I'm not sure, that sounds hard. Good luck!

JasonsMom2007
by Member on Aug. 17, 2012 at 9:08 PM

His doctor has him on a strict diet.  We can't do applesauce and such.  And like I said, if I give him more food he gets bad stomach aches from overeating.

CameronsMommy23
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 9:13 PM
Could he chew on gum to curb his need for food or would he swallow it? Or maybe bring hard candies with you for him to suck on. Then he won't get too full. Idk, I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!
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lifeisajoy
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 11:21 PM

 oh you already tried visual schedules--how about I wonder if you could talk to the doc about if having numerous small meals (or nutritious) will help or not?  

JasonsMom2007
by Member on Aug. 17, 2012 at 11:26 PM
I have a hard enough time with him turning a snack into a huge meal already. He seems to think he needs huge meals all of the time


Quoting lifeisajoy:

 oh you already tried visual schedules--how about I wonder if you could talk to the doc about if having numerous small meals (or nutritious) will help or not?  


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lifeisajoy
by on Aug. 17, 2012 at 11:33 PM

my son like that and mainly I give him numerous small meals throughout the whole day though a regular size dinner

Quoting JasonsMom2007:

I have a hard enough time with him turning a snack into a huge meal already. He seems to think he needs huge meals all of the time


Quoting lifeisajoy:

 oh you already tried visual schedules--how about I wonder if you could talk to the doc about if having numerous small meals (or nutritious) will help or not?  



darbyakeep45
by Darby on Aug. 18, 2012 at 7:18 AM

That's a tough one mama...I honestly don't know!  Hugs!

KellyEileen50
by on Aug. 18, 2012 at 9:47 AM

My thoughts are with you I actually have the opposite problem with Joshua. He has ADHD and takes meds. I can't get him to eat. Have you tried popcorn I keep a handled (bucket type container) that I keep popcorn in as his go to snack. My son is 5yrs also He is 45" tall and 43lbs. Doc. said last Mon. He is right on both. But I do understand the stress of the situation for you. good-luck. I know It's hard to try so hard and still not have the answers. HAng in there.angel mini

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