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What would you do if your special need child came home from school with a urinary catheter?

Posted by on Sep. 13, 2012 at 11:32 AM
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My child got off his special need bus and told me he had something good to show me.  He pulled out his reward for the day from his pant's pocket.  He then told me he had something bad to show me.  He pulled out from his pocket again an object that at first I thought was candy with a silly straw attached to it.  I told him you know you are not suppose to have candy.  I started squesing it and realized as I was going into see my landlord it was not candy.  Because it had butterflies all over the back where the reading was, I didn't read it at first.  Curious at what was in my child's possession from school, I showed it to the people in the office:  this is when they alarmed me it was not something for children was a catheter.  I started reading and big in prints stated what the office people expressed to me.  I was so disturb and upset.  We began questioning him and asking him where did he get it from.  Knowing he would get in trouble, he lied at first:  (the principal gave it to me).  Finally he broke down when we got home and told the truth.  He took it off of the nurse's desk.  I did punish and grounded him for stealing and taking things that didn't belong to him, as well as for lying on the principal.  I drilled him over and over about the importance of telling the truth at all times no matter how much trouble he would get in.  So after dealing with him and his punishments, my next concern was the school.  Although my child knows better than to take things that don't belong to him, my great concern was how can they leave him along, when in his IEP he suppose to be monitored and escorted at all times by an adult while at school?  He was given access to a desk that could be filled with lots of inappropriate and dangerous things that could pose threats to any child, simply because he was left along when the nurse walked out of her office.  To argue this, the school will take no responsibility, because they know they were not following his IEP.  My child is very curious, and loves lots of attention.  Well this very well caught my attention for his sake, and for the sake of other students.  Sometimes I feel I fail as a parent, but I try so hard to direct, teach, guide, and train my children to do what is right.  In the back of my mind is:  why would he take something as this for attention?  I feel I'm a great parent, but what more would you do and how much responsibility if any at all, would you put on the school if certain guidelines and policies suppose to be followed.  Am I at all wrong for being upset at the school as well as my child?  Thanks for your comments.

   

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lifeisajoy
by on Sep. 13, 2012 at 12:58 PM
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a good sign I see here--is he showed it to you and you followed with discipline him but in an appropriate manner and also I would for sure just talk to school about it--I would probably at this point not go any further--though i would point out to school about his IEP--and the attention seeking part--

AMDS0304
by on Sep. 13, 2012 at 1:03 PM
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It's the law they follow his IEP and can get in big trouble for not following it. I would be upset with the school as well!
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letstalk747
by Joy on Sep. 13, 2012 at 4:29 PM
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oh,,, so not ok

Kristina514
by on Sep. 13, 2012 at 7:34 PM

Yeah it was wrong for the school not to follow his IEP. I'd go up there and talk to them about it. I don't think your son was necessarily trying to get attention. How old is he, 7-10? Any kid in that age group would pick something like that up, out of curiousity. Its good that you disciplined him so he can learn right from wrong. Do talk to the school, but remember it could be worse (he could've taken something really dangerous, like medicine).

mom2zachy122
by on Sep. 13, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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I would definitely take it to the school.  I know how quick kids are and how many ways teachers, aides and support staff are asked to split themselves (heck, I LIVE it :), but the bottom line is that he was left alone and the very fact that it COULD have been medicine (if it were left out) is scary.  Secondly, I can't think of a legitimate reason that a urinary catheter would be accessible to a student, any student, and not locked up.  NOt that it's dangerous by itself, it's not, but kids shouldn't be playing with them and possibly putting micro holes in the packaging that could allow moisture or germs to get on the catheter.

I really don't think there is any doubt about it.....the school didn't do their job and it shows.  That said, no harm no foul, but letting them know is a good idea.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Sep. 13, 2012 at 8:09 PM
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Hugs mama!  You are a great mom...school messed up here!

ladynell4god
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 3:23 AM
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Quoting lifeisajoy:

a good sign I see here--is he showed it to you and you followed with discipline him but in an appropriate manner and also I would for sure just talk to school about it--I would probably at this point not go any further--though i would point out to school about his IEP--and the attention seeking part--


Thanks so much:  and I did address the school with this matter.  Wainting for a timely response.thank you

ladynell4god
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 3:31 AM


Quoting Kristina514:

Yeah it was wrong for the school not to follow his IEP. I'd go up there and talk to them about it. I don't think your son was necessarily trying to get attention. How old is he, 7-10? Any kid in that age group would pick something like that up, out of curiousity. Its good that you disciplined him so he can learn right from wrong. Do talk to the school, but remember it could be worse (he could've taken something really dangerous, like medicine).

I agree:  my son is 9 and full of curiousity.  This is why I am disappointed with the school, because although he knows and understands right from wrong and knows stealing is wrong, he should have not been left along.  He is to be monitored and escorted at all times by his teachers.  I did addressed the school, just waiting for a response from them.  Thanks for your response, it helps a lot.  God bless!simple smile

ladynell4god
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 3:40 AM
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Thanks everyone for your kind responses.  I really needed them:  they are helping and encouraging me a lot.  I did addressed the school with this matter.  If I don't hear from them in the timely manner I requested, then I'll have to file a complaint.  God bless you all.  Have a good day!

thank you

ladynell4god
by on Sep. 17, 2012 at 3:41 AM

BUMP!

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