What would you do if your special need child came home from school with a urinary catheter?
My child got off his special need bus and told me he had something good to show me. He pulled out his reward for the day from his pant's pocket. He then told me he had something bad to show me. He pulled out from his pocket again an object that at first I thought was candy with a silly straw attached to it. I told him you know you are not suppose to have candy. I started squesing it and realized as I was going into see my landlord it was not candy. Because it had butterflies all over the back where the reading was, I didn't read it at first. Curious at what was in my child's possession from school, I showed it to the people in the office: this is when they alarmed me it was not something for children was a catheter. I started reading and big in prints stated what the office people expressed to me. I was so disturb and upset. We began questioning him and asking him where did he get it from. Knowing he would get in trouble, he lied at first: (the principal gave it to me). Finally he broke down when we got home and told the truth. He took it off of the nurse's desk. I did punish and grounded him for stealing and taking things that didn't belong to him, as well as for lying on the principal. I drilled him over and over about the importance of telling the truth at all times no matter how much trouble he would get in. So after dealing with him and his punishments, my next concern was the school. Although my child knows better than to take things that don't belong to him, my great concern was how can they leave him along, when in his IEP he suppose to be monitored and escorted at all times by an adult while at school? He was given access to a desk that could be filled with lots of inappropriate and dangerous things that could pose threats to any child, simply because he was left along when the nurse walked out of her office. To argue this, the school will take no responsibility, because they know they were not following his IEP. My child is very curious, and loves lots of attention. Well this very well caught my attention for his sake, and for the sake of other students. Sometimes I feel I fail as a parent, but I try so hard to direct, teach, guide, and train my children to do what is right. In the back of my mind is: why would he take something as this for attention? I feel I'm a great parent, but what more would you do and how much responsibility if any at all, would you put on the school if certain guidelines and policies suppose to be followed. Am I at all wrong for being upset at the school as well as my child? Thanks for your comments.