Typically I get comments from strangers or questions from them, but I rarely get comments from friends...
I have this new friend...I say new because I only met her back in the summer. She has a 3 year old typical child with no special needs. She knows all of Brady's special needs. Well, this past weekend, she made a comment to me about "how blessed I am because he isn't a typical 3 year old that is constantly into things, making it hard to clean, organize, etc."....Seriously? Right after she said this to me, I thought, "are you kidding me?"....My response to her was, "do you know how blessed you are that you have you have perfectly healthy child with no special/medical needs at all?"
Yep, my response shut her up real quick.
People just aren't grateful these days...her child will grow out of the stage where she's "into everything"...my child will NEVER grow out of the way he is. Her comment was just insensitive and ignorant to me.
I haven't had one of these in a while so it was bound to happen sometime!
UPDATE - She actually apologized to me. I was quite surprised...of course she sensed something was wrong and she asked me so I flat out told her and she was extremely apologetic and feels very bad. Maybe she thinks before she speaks from now on:)
Hugs Darby and hope good education from you and she really thought long and hard of what she said and she will not be as insensitive to someone else she comes across or to you -
*hugs* I haven't heard that one yet, but I'm sure it's coming. I think you handled it gracefully!
I got this not from an uneducated friend, but from our SN daughter's PEDIATRICIAN!!! I kept bringing her in month after month because she didn't move at all and rarely cried. At 10 months he told me that she was every mother's "dream child" and that I should feel lucky that I didn't have to worry about her "going anywhere" or deal with the stress of a crying baby.
We left and found a new pediatrician. Seriously, my baby hasn't rolled over, sat up or anything and he is going to say that I should feel fortunate, not concerned?!?!
Sorry, your friend said that. Although it is not appropriate, maybe she was just trying to make a joke because she was feeling uncomfortable or guilty. I have said some pretty off-the-wall inappropriate stuff when nervous or unsure of a situation. Good for you for standing up to her though.
Aww I hate insensitive jerks like that. I had some so called mother tell me that I should have aborted Johnathan because of his special needs. Saying that he would never have a good quality life because of his special needs and she could never make her kid suffer like that and that in her eyes kids like John were a burden on society... I was just appalled. I told her point blank that her ignorant attitude torwards people with special needs was burden on society and that I prayed that nothing ever happened to her child that would make her have special needs. I was pissed.
spd 2yr old and boardwalk cracks?
- darbyakeep45
on Sep. 24, 2012 at 5:30 AM