Denied an Education because he is not potty trained.
I don't know weither to drop this or fight for it. The basic is this. My son is denied an edcation because he is not potty trained to the school's definition (Accident once every 3-4 months). He has an IEP for behavior already. I explained that he is special needs. He can use the potty when he wants to, but most time chooses not to. It's an inconvience for him. With a regular class room I was hoping he would improve in this area.
I have now completed an official evaluation, diagnosis, ADHD, Anexiety and Development Delalys. And advised to ask for 504 policy from the school I want my son to attend.
Now this is a brand new charter school that has just opened it's doors for the first time enrolment this July 2012, with cutting edge tecnology, smart boards, I-pad 2 for each student to use, individualized curiculum, heavy on hands on arts and sciences. I want that for my children. Although we were encouraged to sign up on the first waiting list this spring, even though I stated that my son had potty training issues and is special needs. They had us go through enrollment..which was very rushed...given a teacher. Then on opening day as kids lined up to go in, we were told to leave. "If he's not potty trained we don't want him here. You need to take him and leave NOW." I was told. I was very hurt. I couldn't stop crying. They told me to get it together and not show the kids I am upset. I had to leave my daughter there without a last hug, kiss and wish her well on her first day of school. They didn't want my distress upsetting the kids. I was heart broken. Still am.
So now with advice from our child psycologist I call the school back to ask for a copy of the 504 policy for that school and they won't give it to me. They insist on a meeting. They said, obviously I didn't understand why my son was turned away. Not potty trained is Not potty trained.
I already anticapate another official "no" and said to them, why have a meeting if you're just going to say no again. They assure that that is not the case, they say their special ed person will be in the meeting and they will go over with me so I understand WHY my son was refused a place when the school opened.
They make it sound like the easiest thing in the world to motivate and get my child potty trained. What part of Special needs child do they not understand?
My psycologist had to ask, so if a child in a wheelchair (not mine) and cannot go to the bathroom by them selves and so are not potty trained, they will not be allowed in this school too?
I'm homeschooling one Asperger child already, he takes up so much of my time. My ADHD child acts out to get my attention. He really needs a preschool.
You would think, since I mentioned several times that he is special needs, they would pull out the 504 form or make this appointment the first time I mentioned it. I know the school has a huge waiting list for the preschool class. There is no room for a special needs kid when a regular child could exell much faster with out all the extra needed care. Right?
Arg! Fight or forget it. I can't make up my mind. Go to the meeting and gain knowledge? Bring support? Cancel and forget the meeting.
I've asked the psycologist office to ask our doctor if she can get a cop of the 504 plan for me.