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Raising Special Needs Kids Raising Special Needs Kids

Outside the home that is:)  

I'm just curious how you ladies that do work manage to do it all!  I started working part time back in July, and I only work during his therapy and school hours, but it's just gotten to be so much and so stressful that I'm leaving my job...my last day is next Wednesday.  I'm not very happy having to run around all the time, being stressed all the time, tired all the time, lacking severely in patience with my son and my husband!  It's just hard!  I thought I was ready to go back to work, but I'm obviously not.  Maybe when Brady goes to school fulltime but not yet...

Just wanted to know what your thoughts are:)  Thanks!

by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 8:58 AM
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N.Carter2001
by Silver Member on Oct. 13, 2012 at 2:22 AM
No I don't work cause I was born with cp. but in my past before I had kids I did babysitting. And when I was in high school I worked in the lunch room but I did not last that even went to fast and I could not always keep up. So my job is taking care of our kids and home. I'm always busey have a 1year old boy who is a handful and we have a 4year old boy with autism.
lifeisajoy
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:17 AM

Yes Lottery numbers and winning would be AWESOME!

Quoting mom2zachy122:


Quoting lifeisajoy:

I think we are in the same careers-you sound like I was now I just work very part time due to my own health and I also was the breadwinner and so financially some days I wish I could but everything else I love being home--

You are awesome!! Hang in there!! I remember feeling like that! 

Quoting mom2zachy122:

%Unfortunately, yes.  I work a full-time job and I do homecares on the side every week. I know that some people don't want to be a SAHM.  I always wanted to and feel it's better for my child.  I tried very, very hard to make it work, but once it became clear that Zach wasn't going to be able to adjust to daycare, I knew I would have to be the breadwinner and go back to full-time work b/c my husband just wasn't going to be able to support us on his salary alone.  I am stresed, tired, and overwhelmed most of the time and I feel that it cheats my child of a lot that I think he should have and I want to do for him.  Not material things, but more parenting things.  Like a mom who has the energy to keep up with him, keeps a neat and organized home, is patient and energetic when he is home etc.

So, I'm not happy at all with the situation, but it is what it is and I work extra hard at being patient with him and doing things with him, even if it's "just' playing around the house.  When something needs to give, it's usually the housework or the laundry and then we just somehow catch up later on.  Better messy and in sweats than neglected :)


Yes, if I remember correctly we have similar careers :)  Both are demanding and extend well beyond the typical 9-5 :)  It's definitely a challenge and I remember when we first came up against the "How are we going to make this work" of having a new infant.  I really got a giant wake-up call that no two families handle it the same.  It's difficult for 99% of people and each situation is unique.

I feel your pain.  We are just getting by.  In fact, with buying my husband a new used computer and taking paying out of pocket for taking Z to the psychologist (we didn't get reimbursed from the last visit before this visit came up), we ended up bouncing a check that we can't make good on now 'til Monday, which is the second paycheck of the month, but because the mortgage takes up most of that check, we'll be eating a lot of macaroni, I think!  We just run too close to the line and juggle bills and pay checks too much to be able to absorb a $40 miscalculation in our funds. :(

OTOH, it could be worse.  We could be unemployed.  We could lose the house.  DH has a steady, part-time job and they have been very consistent.  We'd be completely unable to continue living as we are if we lost his $400/month.  So, it is what it is.  I sure do wish that lottery number would come in, though :)


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:50 AM

You would be a fantastic teacher!

Quoting Mipsy:

No, but I am going back to school in january to become a teacher and then will work after that. thsts like 3yrs away though and ty should be at a better place medically by then and in school himself so the schedule works for us


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:51 AM

What an inspiration you are mama!  Hugs!

Quoting N.Carter2001:

No I don't work cause I was born with cp. but in my past before I had kids I did babysitting. And when I was in high school I worked in the lunch room but I did not last that even went to fast and I could not always keep up. So my job is taking care of our kids and home. I'm always busey have a 1year old boy who is a handful and we have a 4year old boy with autism.


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:51 AM

Yep, that's exactly why I've decided NOT to work!  It's been really hard for me...I haven't had any time for myself, stressed all the time, and not feeling good about myself.

Quoting mandee1503:

No. I've discussed getting a job, but have no idea how I can work around the crazy therapy schedule. I'm just constantly on the go.


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:53 AM

You are awesome Tab!

Quoting lifeisajoy:

I worked full time outside the home for years-I was the breadwinner-luckily I love my career but far from easy but also luckily my employment flexible for my son has lots and lots of apt and meetings and all that 

Currently I work very part time and absolutely love it though would like a few more hours but my health wise I can't for we are financially struggling-I have come very financially creative though-I always was-never a big spender and now I REALLY am due to again I was the bread winner-my dh works but made 2.5 times an hour less than me and now he is the bread winner

So some days I wish I could go back to work full time but also I am happy to be home with my son--and not juggling on top of what I already juggle a full time work schedule-I look back and really don't know how I did it-I just did-


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:55 AM

We are in similar fields:)  Your job sounds awesome!  I'm glad things have worked out so you can work.  Good luck to your son starting ABA!  My son is in ABA therapy as well..he started around 18 months old and he will be 4 next week:)  Hugs mama!

Quoting Siobhan69:

Yes, I work full time. I am a director of finance at a wonderful non-profit organization. It's called Clearbrook and we provide services, work programs and housing for developmentally disabled children and adults. They of course are very understanding to my needs with my son who has PDD-NOS. I have been there for 7 years and I love it.

My husband and I are very fortunate that my parents take care of our ds and dd during the day. My ds attends and early childhood structured program for 5 hours a day 5 days a week so they are mainly taking care of our dd who is 10 months old.

Our ds will begin his ABA the end of this month but it will be on Saturday and Sunday to begin with for 3 hours each day and it is home based. I am very lucky to have the resources that I have through my work.

So it's not too tough for us but my heart goes out the all of the mothers who struggle with work and therapies each day. Hugs to each and everyone of you :-)


darbyakeep45
by Darby on Oct. 13, 2012 at 7:56 AM

Totally agree here mama!  Hugs!

Quoting love_my_angels:

No I use to work and love working but both my children have special needs. Like what I read other moms say its hard to juggle all the appointments it's always some thing between tharapys and dr appointments and specialist it's hard. Some people don't understand and I get looked down on a lot but I honestly think the best for my children is me being home. I think that is o e of the reasons they are thriving so much. It's just hard to relate to people who don't understand how it is.


Pukalani79
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 10:53 AM
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 I feel like this a lot!

Quoting gma12.1:

To top that off I just don't have the time to work outside the house.

 

doodlelu
by on Oct. 13, 2012 at 11:04 AM
I am a single mom so I have no choice but to work full time. I am a preschool teacher at a Montessori school. I do love working with the children. BUT I would give anything to be a stay at home mom - my boss is understanding -- to a point -- but it would be so much easier to be able to stay home :-) But unless I win the lottery that won't happen!
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