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Was it "easy" to tell that your child had a delay?

Posted by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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For me, it wasn't easy.

He has a speech and language delay and now its noticeable.


But at 2, no. At 3, it was starting to be more noticeable. Now at 4, right now, i'm wailing. i know i need to come to terms with the delays and just help ds the best i can and hope for the best, but i guess i just have to leave the rest to God.


I've heard of unwaivering mothers who never accepted their kids' fate as pronounced by dev. pedi or neurologists or other specialists and that they're kids are on track or above. In real life, these are the only stories i've heard. i guess b/c people are more inclined to talk about their success than anything less.

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by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 7:29 PM
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yes, i knew when DS was 6 months old.. but NO one wanted to believe me.  i got the whole, youre a first time mom and hes a boy.

i listened like an asshole and he was diagnosed IMHO too late... he was 15 months old.  it drove me insane, because even when he was speaking at 8 months old, and then lost his speech, people told me i was nuts.

if i had only listened to my gut, he would have been diagnosed at 6 months old, and maybe, just maybe he would be further than where he is now.

my DS has classic autism.  he is 5 now

by Elyssa on Jan. 12, 2013 at 7:30 PM
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For my son it was extremely obvious- he was typical and healthy until 15 months, then he suddenly started having hundreds of seizures a day and stopped walking, talking, crawling, rolling over, making eye contact.... Everything.

There's no way to waiver about it, when your child is ripped from your world so suddenly and absolutely.

I think they've gotten less obvious over the years, as he walks now and doesn't drool and is starting to talk... :)

It's okay to grieve. And cry. And stomp your feet... No matter how obvious it is, we ALL have those moments/days/weeks/years! *HUGS*
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by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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I knew at 6mo. He was aggressive and had sensory issues already. I wasn't sure what exactly was different but i knew he was. Everyone would make me feel crazy and say Im a new mom he's just a boy...a rough boy. I felt alone and crazy. But i stood my ground and fought to find the answers. Now he's 2 and everyone is backing me....minus the inlaws. We haven't gotten an official diagnosis of aspergers yet...we go to dev peds in Feb. But his pediatrician neuro drs and behaviorist are all on the same page. I even had to fight early intervention to get him the hrs he needed. Thank god his therapists and drs backed me.
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by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:17 PM
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It was obvious after he stopped breathing at 4.5 months old that he was now delayed

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:24 PM
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when my 7 yr old was 1 she was talking and about 2 yrs old her speech was gone, there was no eye contact and when she got excited she would flap her hands. her dr. said to keep an eye. when she was about 4 she was saying about 5 words and was also relying on her twin. they comfirmed that she had a developmental delay. her speech is alot better. she recieves speech therapy and occupational therapy. her teacher has told me that alot of her actions fall under the autism spectrum disorder and now we are awaiting an evaluation for it. I really wished that I had followed my instincts when she was 2 and had got her evaluated. now it's just a waiting game.

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:42 PM
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I knew when my ds was about 6 months. I also was told I was a young, new mom and was overreacting. When I took my son back two months later I demanded testing.


by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:12 PM
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Very obvious--but it does not make us give up on trying--and it does not make him give up on trying-every day we try--it don't matter how small

He just started wearing underwear for the first time this past early of the year (when he turned 19 years old) He still wears pull ups but he wears underwear for 1/2 the week!! This was so much success--because he went from diapers to full time pull up about 6 years ago and then this past year with the underwear

He will pop up saying a new word--every now and then-this week it came out like this-bugu kin-which means burger king-YES!!

He is advancing socially emotionally awesome this past year-I think the moving into man hood thing--boom it just all happened-lol

Just never give up--we have little successes but we are so so so excited--We went down from full blown meltdowns to pounding and when mom talks and apologizes if mom did not know there was going to be a change and explain what the next stops are they stop!!!

Never give up--though my son will more than likely never be on a 20 year old level ( I would say never but miracles could happen-but I am not like saying he needs to be on an adult level-I am happy at wherever he is at)-he has made his own success which is so awesome!! 

He started walking in a walker with assistance this year-AWESOME!!  He is in a wheelchair-he still uses that but just this week he actually is wanting really wanting to get up and do the walker --like VERY motivated to do it and just stand ON HIS OWN!!  This is so AWESOME!!

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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My kids were always delayed in everything when they were younger, because they were 17 weeks premature.  My husband and I say, they have their own timeline!

As far as Blake and Olivia are concerned, with their CP it was always obvious as they still cannot sit/crawl/etc. unassisted.  Hayden was a lot less obvious, and the only reason she was diagnosed is because we had a GREAT early intervention therapy team.  If it weren't for them I'm pretty sure her Auditory Processing Disorder would still be undiagnosed.  Heck, I'm almost 100% certain if it weren't for them I still would have no idea what an APD is.

by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:20 PM
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My 8yr old dd was a normal healthy child until the accident when she was 14mos old.

We were at a softball game for my oldest dd and while watching another friend's game a foul ball hit on another field struck my dd and myself in the head. Since that time she has had multiple delays and medical issues. With each new problem I find myself thinking back to that day and wishing I could change it. I have plenty of anger about it and have shed plenty of tears. I have faught for her every step of the way. Pushing Dr's, therapist, and the school system to get her the help she needs.

A few things I have learned in this process.... One is I am my childs best advocate and it's my job to make sure she gets what she needs to succeed as best she can. And God gave me this special child for a reason and I'm going to take care of her to the best of my abliltiy.

A friend who's son is Austic gave me some advise.....Never give up.

by Amanda on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:57 PM
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yep, at 4 months the only milestone Jacob had hit was smiling.

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