Okay Ladies, This might get long.
Here's my dilema, I am married to my hubby for 27 yrs, have one teenager (boy) and a 10yr. old (boy). My youngest is special needs: blind, spd, kleinfelter's baby and ebstein's anomally (heart condition).
My two sons do not get along right now. Teenagers being teenagers-don't want anything to do with younger brother and thinks he's very spoiled. Which both of them are (I admit).
Well teenager being teenager uses cus words around younger brother and younger brother takes them to school and thinks it funny to use these words. But that's not all he says! He has come up with this statement that could and probably misconstrued as sexual abuse by my hubby. But there's nothing going on!! He is doing this for attention and thinks it's funny to say this.
Well teachers and admininstrators by law have to report this kind of statement to county child welfare office. Last time it was mentioned my hubby :Blew up" and told me that if he is going to be accused of something like this, then he will leave me and my sons. He's tired of being a dad (never really wanted to be one in the first place) and he will leave me over this, cuz he's not going to jail for something he hasn't done.
Well tonight I got another phone call from the county socila services office and they do not want to turn it over to CPS, but are concerned. Iv'e told them the whole story and they understand that we are at a loss of what to do. He has a physc that has him on Prozac, but doesn't do talk therapy, the school phsyc is aware of his conditions and understands why he is doing this and has explained it to social services. I havent' told my hubby about the two phone calls, because I don't want to go thru another fight over it. We have given him so many replacement words, that nothing sticks. We have tried time outs, bribing, taking away favorite toys and such, but nothing seems to work. So now social services wants to send someone out to see if they have any services they can offer. I am starting a new job on Friday and I know I am not going to sleep well over this!
Any ideas would be much appreciated. Again I know that when children are reported, the parents are the first to deny it, but honestly I hope they do send someone out to see what's going on and that my kids are truely spoiled and this is the way my youngest gets attention.