Anyone choose to have more children after having one with special needs?
I have two children. A 9 year old who is severe with his diagnoses. A 4 year old with very mild needs. We had always said we'd have 3 children. I find myself feeling like this is another part of our "plan" that is being altered if we don't try for #3.
I'm getting older and feel, if we are going to try for another, we need to get started. Some family members always make comments when my oldest is having a bad day that it is a good thing we only have 2. My mother tried to talk me into a tubal after our youngest. I know a pregnancy would take time for others to come around and support us. We know that there is a 50/50 chance our next child could have special needs (because our two have a genetic diagnosis that was passed on from my husband)
I thought I could come to terms with being done at 2, but I still feel someone is missing in our family. I don't want to regret not having that 3rd child. Anyone choose to have more children? Especially if one has severe needs?