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Posted by on Mar. 21, 2013 at 11:36 PM
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So Ive been thinking about why my son has the problems he has. He has spd. I l did some reading online and found that hypoxia(?) at birth can be a cause of some asd. My son was born full term. I wanted a water birth but when I was in the birthing tub his heart rate went down so I had to get out and go to the bed to push. I dont remember how long I pushed for including in the tub but he was born blue and not breathing. I blame myself.
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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Mar. 22, 2013 at 6:46 AM
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Oh hugs mama!  It's NOT your fault!  We have all gone through times where we blame ourselves, but it's never your fault.  He's perfect and God made him just the way He wanted him to be.  Hugs!

sammygrl77
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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(((Hugs))) It is not your fault! Sometimes we can have a perfect birth and still have problems. It just happens for no reason.
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by Dawn on Mar. 22, 2013 at 10:14 AM

Welcome to the group! You made a great first step in helping your son in joining this group. There are many different causes of ASD, and some are out of your control such as genetics. Your son can still reach his full potential in life if you work with his teachers and therapists. It can be a lot of work right now, but he can shine in his special way in life. You can learn more about Special Education and its services at http://www.wrightslaw.com/. You can find activities for your son to do at Easter Seals (http://www.easterseals.org/), Special Olympics (http://www.specialolympics.org/), TheARC (http://www.thearc.org/), and Variety Club (http://www.usvariety.org/).

Dawn


Group owner of Different Learners Support Group (http://www.cafemom.com/group/118648)

mandee1503
by Amanda on Mar. 22, 2013 at 2:18 PM

*hugs* it's not your fault. 

Pukalani79
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 2:49 PM

 ((HUGS)) I think we all at some point blame ourselves for our children's struggles.  It's not your fault. 

willysmama
by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 3:36 PM

i can relate. Its not your fault.

Autiziumom
by Bravo on Mar. 24, 2013 at 2:28 AM
When I found out my son had autism I was devestated! I go bak in thought to my birth! I waited a while after my water broke to go to the hospital! I got the epidural. Was I not strong enough or was I unhealthy???? Only God knows! Take it easy on urself! U love him, I love my son! We cannot change the unchangeble! Just love him!
letstalk747
by Joy on Mar. 24, 2013 at 2:34 PM

i know how you feel

its not your fault

its not your fault

you must spend all your energy on your babe and let this go it will take and use all your energy and everything else up away from what your babe needs from you- hold the guilt in your hand and throw it up to space and let it go never to return , please , i send you strength

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