So I've been with my fiance for over a year and we're getting married in a little less than 2 months and ever since I've moved back here I've gotten the odd vibe that his brother doesn't like me or my kids. Whenever we'd have family events he'd stay far away from us, whenever we'd visit fiance's moms house (where his brother lived for a little while) his brother would always stay in his room when we were over. So yesterday his brother called my fiance to see if he could come help him put together furniture, but just him.
So my fiance comes home a few hours later and we sit down to talk after my kids have gone to bed...he talked to his brother and what his brother said has both pissed me off and devastated me. He finally got it out of his brother that he would rather not hang out with us because of my kids. When it comes to me my fiance said that his brother says he's "warming up to me" but knows that his brother gets in over his head in his relationships. So this means that he doesn't think this will work between me and my fiance...geez thanks for the vote of confidence.
And he doesn't like to be around my kids because they are loud and a bit whiny. I admit that at times I'd rather not be around my kids and I don't take them many places because of how my oldest meltsdown and my three year old meltsdown. I figured I was safe with family but turns out I was mistaken. How do I help him understand that my oldest has Aspergers and Sensory Processing Disorder? We're doing all we know how to do but we can't stop all the meltdowns. I don't want my fiance to miss out on hanging out with his brother just because he doesn't want to be around my kids.
His brother is in the wedding party; I feel like kicking him out of it just so my kids can be there...so I've told my fiance to tell his brother he has the option of not coming because my kids WILL be there. This hurts my heart honestly; I had my suspicions but to hear my suspicions confirmed has hurt me greatly and I'm not sure how or where to go from here. Anyways, I just needed to get it out; thanks for listening...er reading.