Everyone keeps saying this is normal child behavior but I know its not! (LONG)
For the longest time, I have known that something was different about my DD. Ever since she was diagnosed with lead poisoning at 7 months until we got it under control at 13 months.
She started all her first early, she had her head up within a week-2 weeks, rolled completely before turning 3 months, crawled between 4-5 months, walked at 8 months (closer to 9 months) and babbling at 12 months. But she barely could verbalize words, she had violent interactions with other kids and she was just a little bit slower at most things then other kids. I mean she would excel at learning things like her shapes, colors and stuff (which she knew by 2) but important stuff like stop and no still are literally hard for her to comprehend. Why? I have no idea.
Well, lately she has been getting more violent. Throwing things (it doesnt matter what it is either) at kids and adults, kicking, hitting, still biting and just overly violent. She gets time outs and things taken away but I don't know what else to do. I keep hearing spank her but she was spanked and I think that played a big part in it too. It was stupid and now I encourage people to not spank her because, with someone with behavior violence issues like DD, its pointless because it just makes her more violent. But my family and close friends don't believe it. They say this is normal child behavior and that spanking would do the trick. And no matter what I say they won't listen to me.
I am trying to do what is best for my daughter and I know I am probably going to be bashed a little and thats fine. I can't just say stay away from her because I live with my family. She gets E.I. Services and she is meeting with a child psychologist on the 4th of June and I am trying to find a developmental pediatrician (my insurance provider found some pediatricians with ABA training so I am going to call them tomorrow because I literally just got my insurance cards in the mail yesterday).
I know that this is not normal behavior and no matter what I say nobody believes me. Her E.I people think its PDD (I have posted that before in here) but I'm starting to think its not. I admit that I made plenty of mistakes in the past with this not knowing that some of these behaviors are not normal but for the last year, I have been dedicated to doing it the right way and not having support is killing me! I don't know what else to do! Can you ladies give me a little advice on how to handle the people around me? I don't want to have to uproot her because they don't know tolerance but I refuse for them to think that I will spank her or that they will spank her if Im not around. I never leave her with anyone anyway because I am at home with her all day and if Im not 98% of the time she is with me while Im out but if I have to, that is what I am worried about. Thanks ladies.