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Meltdowns in public

Posted by on Jun. 7, 2013 at 5:41 PM
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D gets meltdowns, mostly triggered by being tired or hungry. I know how to handle him, but I don't know how to handle other people. Today he fell apart at the grocery store and several older, well-meaning ladies were basically interferring. Giving him sympathy does NOT help. I was probably rude, but I just swept past them. Then he started screaming at me. Did you know I am a bad poopy?
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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jun. 7, 2013 at 5:43 PM
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Hugs mama!  I don't give other people the time of day.  Period.  I don't care what they do or say...I ignore them and I'm not afraid to tell them to mind their own business if need be.  I'm sorry this happened!

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by Gold Member on Jun. 7, 2013 at 6:39 PM

I am so sorry that this had to happen.         I don't think you're a bad poopy! 






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Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Jun. 7, 2013 at 6:49 PM
While he was screaming at me, some woman turned out and started to tell him that was not nice. I rushed past her too. We ran into her, literally, a couple of aisles over. She accidentally clobbered him across the face with her cart. He was fine and guess what, he stopped shrieking.
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jjamom
by Michele on Jun. 7, 2013 at 6:51 PM
HUGS! I have found in any situation like this where people just don't understand, you have to just do what's best for your child and not worry about the other people (they are usually strangers anyway and more than capable of taking care of themselves, lol). Just focus on your son. I know it's hard sometimes when people just don't get it and are not being helpful. At least they were trying to be understanding and weren't nasty or rude like some people can be!
Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Jun. 7, 2013 at 7:19 PM
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True. When he was younger, he just seemed like he was having regular tantrums. Now that he's almost 6 because of his behavior it's becoming very obvious he's SNs. He has some facial dysmorphia that's getting more noticeable too. Today at the phone store he was bored so to entertain himself he started teasing my 3 year old by touching his stroller. LO would screech and D would laugh this crazed hyena laugh. The more I said to stop, the more he revved up. After about 4 times, I finally kind of wrestled him over by me and blocked him between the counter and my body so I could finish my business. The clerk didn't say anything, but the look on her face said it all. I almost apologized and told her he's Unique, he has a rare chromo condition, but decided not to, didn't really matter what she thought.


Quoting jjamom:

HUGS! I have found in any situation like this where people just don't understand, you have to just do what's best for your child and not worry about the other people (they are usually strangers anyway and more than capable of taking care of themselves, lol). Just focus on your son. I know it's hard sometimes when people just don't get it and are not being helpful. At least they were trying to be understanding and weren't nasty or rude like some people can be!

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mandee1503
by Amanda on Jun. 7, 2013 at 7:40 PM

*hugs*

GleekingOut
by Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:07 AM

Oh wow. When DD21 was younger she would have meltdowns (I didn't know she was aspergers then) and I would have little old ladies telling me "Slap her in the face" if I tried to talk her through it or the days where it was a tantrum and I knew a spank would get her attention enough to stop (she believed that I would never have the guts to spank her in public) they would say "If you touch her I'm ringing the cops" and she was 2/3/4 then! It wasn't like I was hitting a 12yo. The 6 weeks that she had her casts on and behaving like that were the worst. People assumed (even though her casts were on to stretch her muschles) that I was abusing her. The looks I got were horrible.

Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM
I've heard similar stories from other moms whose kids have been casted, that people assume mom hurt them. So insulting.




Quoting GleekingOut:

Oh wow. When DD21 was younger she would have meltdowns (I didn't know she was aspergers then) and I would have little old ladies telling me "Slap her in the face" if I tried to talk her through it or the days where it was a tantrum and I knew a spank would get her attention enough to stop (she believed that I would never have the guts to spank her in public) they would say "If you touch her I'm ringing the cops" and she was 2/3/4 then! It wasn't like I was hitting a 12yo. The 6 weeks that she had her casts on and behaving like that were the worst. People assumed (even though her casts were on to stretch her muschles) that I was abusing her. The looks I got were horrible.


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GleekingOut
by Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 8:09 AM


It got to the point where I took my little sister (who was 17 at the time) everywhere with me because she had a attitude like you would not believe and I was scared to death about someone ringing the police on me. I ended up walking around with DD's specialist's number in my wallet so that if I did ever get questioned I could give a police officer his number.

Quoting Bluecalm:

I've heard similar stories from other moms whose kids have been casted, that people assume mom hurt them. So insulting.




Quoting GleekingOut:

Oh wow. When DD21 was younger she would have meltdowns (I didn't know she was aspergers then) and I would have little old ladies telling me "Slap her in the face" if I tried to talk her through it or the days where it was a tantrum and I knew a spank would get her attention enough to stop (she believed that I would never have the guts to spank her in public) they would say "If you touch her I'm ringing the cops" and she was 2/3/4 then! It wasn't like I was hitting a 12yo. The 6 weeks that she had her casts on and behaving like that were the worst. People assumed (even though her casts were on to stretch her muschles) that I was abusing her. The looks I got were horrible.




Bluecalm
by Bronze Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 8:26 AM
That's terrible. I'm sorry you went through such a hard time. It doesn't even make sense because if a mom broke her child's legs, the authorities would have removed her from the home.

I know some people carry a letter from their specialist, like if the child bruises easily or has brittle bones.


Quoting GleekingOut:


It got to the point where I took my little sister (who was 17 at the time) everywhere with me because she had a attitude like you would not believe and I was scared to death about someone ringing the police on me. I ended up walking around with DD's specialist's number in my wallet so that if I did ever get questioned I could give a police officer his number.


Quoting Bluecalm:

I've heard similar stories from other moms whose kids have been casted, that people assume mom hurt them. So insulting.









Quoting GleekingOut:

Oh wow. When DD21 was younger she would have meltdowns (I didn't know she was aspergers then) and I would have little old ladies telling me "Slap her in the face" if I tried to talk her through it or the days where it was a tantrum and I knew a spank would get her attention enough to stop (she believed that I would never have the guts to spank her in public) they would say "If you touch her I'm ringing the cops" and she was 2/3/4 then! It wasn't like I was hitting a 12yo. The 6 weeks that she had her casts on and behaving like that were the worst. People assumed (even though her casts were on to stretch her muschles) that I was abusing her. The looks I got were horrible.







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