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Brain Balance with ODD

Posted by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:19 AM
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My oldest son is 12 1/2 years old. He was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD when he was 8. (Apparantly this is late for an ADHD dx.) He has violent meltdowns. He used to physically abuse me but that has stopped. He does still verbally attack me on occassion. When he gets mad at me for not letting him misbehave, he attacks one of his little brothers. Over a year ago, he was dx with a nonverbal learning disability. We have been trying to get help for him for 4 years. All the specialists say he needs meds. Nothing else. I couldn't even get a referral to a diatician.The week before his last birthday, in Nov., we put him in an institution to get him stablized. That was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. He was dx with anxiety and he's being treated for bipolar disorder without an official dx for that.

We finally found Brain Balance. They did extensive tests, mental, accademic, and physical. We got his brain age in many areas and found where he hasn't developed properly. They will be doing lab work and setting up a diet for him next week. Finally, we're getting somewhere. I have hope again that he won't end up in juvie. We also have excercises for him to do at home. Here's my problem. He refuses to do any at-home work. He is supposed to do a few push-ups, curl-ups, eye excercises (he has weak eye muscles), amongst other easy tasks. He whines and complains about how much he hates it. He exerts more energy getting out of the work than he would if he just buckled down and got it over with. When I play the music CD, he gets pissed and acts out. I tell him, "As soon as you finish your excercises, we can leave and have some fun." He doesn't care. He doesn't care that the whole family is suffering. His younger brothers will do the do the activities with him. I ground him. It doesn't matter. Now I'm trapped at home, unable to take him out because he won't cooperate. 

Any ideas? I'm at a complete loss. I feel helpless again. If this doesn't work, we'll have to hospitilze him long term. And my MIL will be out $6000. It's the only way to protect my other kids and get some peace around here.

by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:19 AM
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darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:28 AM
I don't have any experience mama...hugs and good luck!
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Momforhealth
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:36 AM

 What does the Brain Balance suggest to do?  Will he play at a jungle gym at the park?  It is positive exercise and you do not have to bribe a child to play on them.  If he wont follow the structure of an actual work out he may play on those.  Those gym things have kids working all kinds of muscle...no power struggle with Mom. ?? just an idea.

lizlaughlove
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:46 AM


Quoting Momforhealth:

 What does the Brain Balance suggest to do?  Will he play at a jungle gym at the park?  It is positive exercise and you do not have to bribe a child to play on them.  If he wont follow the structure of an actual work out he may play on those.  Those gym things have kids working all kinds of muscle...no power struggle with Mom. ?? just an idea.

He won't really play on th eplayground anymore. He does roller blade and ride his bike alot. He gets lots of physical excercise. The excercises he is supposed to be doing are for things like his rooting reflex, where his the equivelant of a 3 year old. All of his primitive reflexes are in the toddler years still. His touch sensations are that of 5-7 year olds. We need to strengthen his right lobe. 

mandee1503
by Amanda on Jul. 10, 2013 at 12:41 PM
*hugs* I have no idea, but I hope you are able to get some answers.
MomOfOneCoolKid
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 9:27 PM

I don't know mom. I'd say, follow the psych's advise.

Have you heard of

The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child by Alan E. Kazdin (Jan 15, 2009) ?

I've heard really good things about it.

Gloria1025
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 9:48 PM

Have you explored getting any Behavioral Health support like a Behavioral Science Consultant to help?  I like the idea of the Brain Balance but it sounds like he needs help to do it so he can feel how it helps him.  

lizlaughlove
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 9:58 PM


Quoting Gloria1025:

Have you explored getting any Behavioral Health support like a Behavioral Science Consultant to help?  I like the idea of the Brain Balance but it sounds like he needs help to do it so he can feel how it helps him.  

Yes. We supposedly have one of the best behavioral centers, but they won't treat him because he's not on the spectrum. It took 3 years to get them to see him at the request of teachers and his pedi. They finally did analyze him after a trip to the ER. 

lizlaughlove
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:00 PM

If he'd just take his at-home treatment seriously, we could help him. But the ODD gets in the way. I have even resorted to bribery, along with taking away things, priveleges, and grounding. 

Gloria1025
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:06 PM


Ugh!!! How frustrating!  I would think behavioral health would be the place that would know how to help with ODD.  I didn't think they were limited to just ASD.  Did they make any helpful suggestions after they evaluated him?

Quoting lizlaughlove:

Yes. We supposedly have one of the best behavioral centers, but they won't treat him because he's not on the spectrum. It took 3 years to get them to see him at the request of teachers and his pedi. They finally did analyze him after a trip to the ER. 



Gloria1025
by Member on Jul. 10, 2013 at 10:09 PM


Hey - whatever works - it not bribery, it's "positive behavioral reinforcement". ;-)

Quoting lizlaughlove:

If he'd just take his at-home treatment seriously, we could help him. But the ODD gets in the way. I have even resorted to bribery, along with taking away things, priveleges, and grounding. 



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