My oldest son is 12 1/2 years old. He was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD when he was 8. (Apparantly this is late for an ADHD dx.) He has violent meltdowns. He used to physically abuse me but that has stopped. He does still verbally attack me on occassion. When he gets mad at me for not letting him misbehave, he attacks one of his little brothers. Over a year ago, he was dx with a nonverbal learning disability. We have been trying to get help for him for 4 years. All the specialists say he needs meds. Nothing else. I couldn't even get a referral to a diatician.The week before his last birthday, in Nov., we put him in an institution to get him stablized. That was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. He was dx with anxiety and he's being treated for bipolar disorder without an official dx for that.
We finally found Brain Balance. They did extensive tests, mental, accademic, and physical. We got his brain age in many areas and found where he hasn't developed properly. They will be doing lab work and setting up a diet for him next week. Finally, we're getting somewhere. I have hope again that he won't end up in juvie. We also have excercises for him to do at home. Here's my problem. He refuses to do any at-home work. He is supposed to do a few push-ups, curl-ups, eye excercises (he has weak eye muscles), amongst other easy tasks. He whines and complains about how much he hates it. He exerts more energy getting out of the work than he would if he just buckled down and got it over with. When I play the music CD, he gets pissed and acts out. I tell him, "As soon as you finish your excercises, we can leave and have some fun." He doesn't care. He doesn't care that the whole family is suffering. His younger brothers will do the do the activities with him. I ground him. It doesn't matter. Now I'm trapped at home, unable to take him out because he won't cooperate.
Any ideas? I'm at a complete loss. I feel helpless again. If this doesn't work, we'll have to hospitilze him long term. And my MIL will be out $6000. It's the only way to protect my other kids and get some peace around here.