I cannot tell you ladies how many times I've been told I am the cause of my children's behavior, and it happened again today. It seems like I cannot do anything right to make these people happy. I don't know how to get through to them that you simply cannot treat an autistic child the same way you would treat a normal (sorry) child. For example, my oldest has no frustration tolerance whatsoever. If we're working on handwriting and his letter doesn't come out the way he wants it to, he'll get mad and throw his book or pencil across the room. Do I punish him? No. I give him a break, wait till he's calm, and then have him pick it up and we get back to work. I will not punish my children for reactions or behavior that is outside their ability to control. Now if they're mean or flat out disobedient, absolutely I'll take care of it. That was their choice to act that way and there are consequences.
I just don't understand. Am I too easy on them? Do I let too much slide or demand too little? Most others around us think I'm too hard! I just can't seem to please anyone and I'm really starting to feel like a failure
on Jul. 24, 2013 at 4:18 PM