I'm not sure where to post this. I'm not sure if I should post this in the moms with teens group or if I should post in here so I'm hoping I find someone who can offer some ideas.
Tonights fighting was all about how I don't trust him and he's 14 he doesn't need a babysitter and he should be allowed to be home alone etc etc etc.
However. I know he's self harming. I know he's attempted suicide in the past. He is unstable and he admits that. His meds are evened out yet. He's been suicidal this past summer. and I feel like some of his issues from his past are bothering him more lately because he's been having a lot more nightmares and anxiety.
so I don't let him stay home alone. I don't let him come home after school if I'm at work. He is supposed to go to his moms unless he goes to a friends house. He generally abides by these expectations. I think he doesn't mind going to his moms because her boyfriend has a lot of video games... but he also hates going to his moms out most of the time because they don't get along very well. but I have no where else for him to be if he doesn't want to go to a friends or if no one can hang out. We dont have any other family around that is available at that time and I have to work :/
I'm just frustrated because I want to trust him and let him be a normal teenager and not need a "babysitter" but honestly how can I do that? this post was mainly to vent about the fighting tonight, because I have no one else to vent to except you ladies :(
thanks for reading. suggestions and advice welcome