I took the advice I got about Sam and his self harm and I didn't nag him about it or anything. I caught him in the bathroom just a little bit ago cutting his leg and I tried really hard not to react negatively or anything like that. it was so incredibly hard to just bite my tongue and be calm. I ask him if he was ok and he didn't respond and I sat him on the toilet and got out the bandaids and neosporen and he objected but I told him semi firmly if you're going to do it I'm going to clean it and he didn't say anything after that.
It was pretty deep and it made me feel really sick that he could do that to himself. It makes me even sicker to think that he's hurting so much inside that he would rather slice is flesh open until he bleeds.
what helped me tonight was knowing I could come post in here about it, that I have people to talk to. so thank you for reading this. any advice is appriciated. (I'm going to tell his therapist about it the next time we see her, but she asks him about it each session and from what I know he is honest with her about whether he is doing it or not)
also, how do you know when a cut needs stitches??