I need help ASAP! Feeling helpless right now
Hello ladies! I am new to this group and I was hoping that I could get some advice on how to handle my 6 year old daughter. We just found out she was diagosed with ADHD and ODD and I have NO idea how to handle it. She's been defiant and stubborn ever since she was 2 years old and it's only gotten worse as she's gotten older and I just have no patience for it anymore. Our pediatrician recommended no medication at this point since she's so young but did say a psycholgist would be a great start. Our insurance doesn't cover mental health services for children or adults so I don't know how we are going to go about this and get the help she needs. It's just getting the worst its ever been and my husband and I just can't handle her anymore, we've come to our breaking point. She gets up at 4:00 every morning and gets into the pantry and eats and eats and eats. She just doesn't stop. She just is out of control. I just want to help her but I don't know how to do that with everything she's going through. I just want to go one day without feeling like a horrible mother for not wanting to get up in the morning because i I know I have to deal with her attitude and her being out of control. I just want one day where she listens to me and I don't have to to tell her 5 to 6 times to do something. I want to go one day where she doesn't whine over everything because she's not getting her way.
We also have a 2 year old son and after he was born I was diagnosed with PPD and I feel like it's now turned into something more. I was on anti-depressants for it and I was feeling better but then when my daughther's attutide has gotten to the point that it has I just feel like I am going to snap one of these days. I don't even want to be home most of the time because I just don't want to deal with all the stress from everything going on. I am not sure if I get myself help if it will help my daughter as well because I just feel like I need to be talking to somebody and being on some sort of medication to help me with this anxiety and stress. I feel like a horrible mother for feeling this way because I love my daughter so much, I just want to know how to help her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much.