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schizophrenia or ODD advice!! (UPDATE)

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 6:43 PM
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I have a 4 year old daugther that since 3 years old her behavior has gone for bad to horrible. She is super hard headed and always seems to give me a hard time about everything getting dressed, brushing her teeth, putting on her seat belt ect. Here is a few things she has done in the past. Once at the library she had a terrible melt down because she wanted 5 books and I told her to pick 3. I had to carry her to the car and force to put on her seat belt while the whole time she was slapping me and scratching me so hard I was bleeding from my hands. I took her to see a  psychiatrist at the age off 3 and he told me nothing was wrong. I kept trying to do other things to work of her behavior time outs, taking things away and even spanking nothing seem to work. Now she is on her third day of vpk school and I was called today because she had a melt down because her twin sister was going to the yellow circle (which is bad) and this end in my child that is now four scratching the asst principle and hitting 2 teachers. They're are telling her behavior is not a normal 4 year old and want to evaluate her. Please help me understand what is going on here and what will happen? And if anyone had been through this.. I feel like I've failed her as a mother! 

Doctor told me today it can be signs of schizophrenia or ODD! I am torn :(


(UPDATE) So I was talking to my family today about what's going on with my daughter and it went bad. I feel like they just don't understand how hard and heartbroken and lost I am now. My aunt went on to tell me I should have an abortion now with this baby I am carrying because it wouldn't be fair to any of my kids. Now that I have a child that will need my attention all the time. How would I can for any of my other kids :(

by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 6:43 PM
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arkansasmama08
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 7:20 PM
It could be. But it could also be something like ADHD or other behavioral problems. Have you tried any meds with her?
Freckles85
by Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 7:37 PM

No, I am trying to get her seen with a behavior specialist.

Quoting arkansasmama08: It could be. But it could also be something like ADHD or other behavioral problems. Have you tried any meds with her?


raysma07
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 8:13 PM

My son has some of these behavours to but he has ADHD and sensory intergration disorder. we had him on meds but they presented agression so on tuesday we will be trying something else. Don't get dicourged things will come together . My son is only 6 and was dx at 4  .

letstalk747
by Joy on Jan. 30, 2014 at 8:20 PM

probly wont get a  as close as can be  for sure Dx till older , alot of us go thru this , hang in there , i know what you are going thru

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 31, 2014 at 6:22 AM
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To be 100% honest, a lot of this behavior you're describing sounds like typical toddler/preschooler behavior.  If they don't get their way, they have a tantrum.  That doesn't mean they are schizophrenic or anything like that.  I don't believe kids that young can be diagnosed with something like that.  She seems agressive when she doesn't get her way and then she gets violent with the hitting and such.  I agree with you in that you need to get her evaluated and seen by a behavioral therapist to help with this behavior, but I don't think it's anything more than that.  Personally, I think people are too quick to turn to diagnoses like that when kids are too young.  

Cindy18
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 7:10 AM

I don't know much about either issue but from what I have read, schizophrenia does not typically manifest until early teens to adulthood.

lillettemomma
by Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 7:18 AM
Both can manifest in childhood rarely.... one thing to try is not reacting at all.....kids with odd seek out negative attention....The more you react the more she will act out....My friend daughter has odd and she was told not to talk or anything except simple directions said once and then to physically put her where she needs to be.... it's hard to do but it does help...
Freckles85
by Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 12:02 PM

Thank you so much for you words. I truley apperciate! I've had nothing but negavtive comments from family. 

Linagma03
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2014 at 1:00 PM
I am so sorry that your family has not been understanding. What your Aunt said was just mean IMO.

From experience I know how upsetting it can be when family doesn't want to believe something is wrong. Because they don't live with the issues and have to deal with everything they don't see or don't want to see that there is a problem. I've been accused of LOOKING for problems.

Go with your gut Momma. That gut feeling has helped us all a lot especially when we KNOW there is something wrong and even the doctors tell us there is nothing wrong we keep pressing for answers because WE know there is something going on.
darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 31, 2014 at 7:14 PM

I'm so sorry your family is so unsupportive mama...hugs!

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