Well I've bit**** about DH off and on here mostly about him and Lina's diet. Well things are calming down since the move so I've decided that I'm just going to do the cooking as far as Lina goes. We will still have a couple nights where he will wind up feeding her what he cooks which most likely will have things she isn't supposed to have. Can't get him to understand that it doesn't matter that you've dilutated it with other ingredients, it doesn't matter that she only gets it a couple times a month it is things she isn't supposed to have ANY of.
Now I'm ready to pull my hair out over his attitude about her clothing! I have trouble finding clothes that will fit her because she has a large stomach, wide chest, shoulders that slope slightly so regular bra's and spaghetti straps won't stay up, short thick legs, very wide feet. Lina hates any kind of pants that are low rise or slide down to low rise when she sits down, she hates shirts that shows her belly in any way. She usually wears leggings, the nice swearpants, t-shirts (usually boys). She had picutre day here at the new school but didn't really have anything nice to wear so DH said take her and get her something nice for pictures. I wound up getting her a couple pair of new leggings, some new nice looking t-shirts, and a sweater that she really likes and is perfect for school Spirit Day (he was upset about the clothes). He had wanted me to find something girly or a dress, they had none that would fit her. She also has NO shoes for a nice outfit like that. He asked why I didn't get her shoes too. DUH?! they didn't have any in her size! Yesterday I found her 3 more pair of leggings at Forever 21 and was telling DH that I wish I'd had her with me because they had some dresses that would be real short on most but would look good on her and would've been perfect with leggings, he got upset again over the leggings. (I mentioned here that she has been showing the sensory issues involving textures so this sweater is now her most favorite thing because it is super soft).
Here is where the fighting/argueing started. He said I need to buy her some jeans because she can't go her entire life in leggings and sweats, that I should get her the girls shirts and she just needs to get used to them. I told him she doesn't like jeans that they don't fit her right. We went back and forth about the fact I told him she doesn't like the way the material feels, she doesn't like that they slide down, she can't do up the pants on her own because she can't see the fasteners, they bother her belly when she sits down. He came back with get them a little loose and put a belt on her, she HAS to get used to things. Then he went on about her not using her spoon to eat that they are teaching her that at school. I told him again that she does use her spoon and if I see her using her fingers she is reminded to use her spoon (he is at the table too ugh!), I tried to tell him that it is the texture that she likes that is why she is using her fingers and squishing her food between them or just grabbing it and putting it in her mouth. I told him she can't use a belt because it pinches her belly and leaves bruises, the school wants her to fasten her own clothing (she can't), I tried to explain about the feel of the material and that she doesn't like that feeling.
I am about ready to scream! Then he'll do something that makes me wonder if he isn't beginning to have some issues himself. Has anyone here dealt with a person with the beginnings of Alzhiemer's or regular dementia? He shows me signs that he may be starting with either one. He will be 68 in March.
I am done complaining now Thanks everyone!