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Rewards after this?

Posted by on Mar. 19, 2014 at 4:51 PM
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I couldn't think of a good catchy title so I hope this catches. My DS is 8 and is possible CBC (Complex something or other) ADD, SPD, and not sure what else...he is a fiesty one that does not like change which I am bringing in.

I have a chore board some from everything from making his bed, brushing his teeth (huge battle) to doing his school work (I am homeschooling)

Yesterday he eventually did his school work after a 3 hour temper tatrum, now should I count this as a done, (if he does so much he gets a reward) or should it be done with out a fight...

I know this should be simple but this is all new to me, I thought all his "issues" were behaviour based and not a diagnosable issue...

by on Mar. 19, 2014 at 4:51 PM
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arkansasmama08
by Gold Member on Mar. 19, 2014 at 5:44 PM
I think you should count it as done for now. Give him an adjustment period. He doesn't like change, and this is a pretty big one. After he adjusts and gets into a routine with it, then mark him down for an attitude.
dawncs
by Dawn on Mar. 19, 2014 at 5:48 PM

Have you thought of addressing it in his IEP or Section 504 document? Is he bored in class? Does he think of homework as busy work? It could be the causes of it. I recommend reading: http://www.wrightslaw.com/, http://www.ldonline.org/, and www.chadd.org.

Connorsmommy13
by Member on Mar. 19, 2014 at 6:05 PM

 

Quoting dawncs:

Have you thought of addressing it in his IEP or Section 504 document? Is he bored in class? Does he think of homework as busy work? It could be the causes of it. I recommend reading: http://www.wrightslaw.com/, http://www.ldonline.org/, and www.chadd.org.

 I am working with his SEA through the homeschooling programe I am using to tackle that, it was mainly some math, he does it with a computer programe so its self marking, and he just wanted to play outside and not do it, and he thought I would give in, why I dont know I am fairly good at following though, but I have stopped the "tommrow mom" game.

letstalk747
by Joy on Mar. 19, 2014 at 7:30 PM

 i count it as done because if i dont  my son thinks i did all this work for nothing , he dont realize how long it took him to get it done

valleymomma1
by Bronze Member on Mar. 20, 2014 at 12:24 PM

I would count it as done.

SamMom912
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2014 at 5:13 PM

Done. i also believe if you dont consider it done chances of him acting out again (in protest of him doing it) that he will be less inclined as you didnt see the work he did do and then youll deal with the meltdown of not getting the reward... (Which I why I dont loke rewards) 

If youre into reward charts you should read "parenting the defiant child" by kazdin, he also has a DVD.. It may make your life easier if you had a good basis for the sticker charts.. He dicusses all this in his book. I borrowed it from my local library and read it in 2/3 days (easy simple weiting.. Not textbooky) I dont buy into reward charts, but he had a pretty good plan that I almost considered it... But I think it answers some tangible questions you may have on how to proceed. :) when something is done- he is very very descriptive on how to reward, what to say, how to say it, what to do... And even in the video like an exact guide on how to reward.

Connorsmommy13
by Member on Mar. 20, 2014 at 6:24 PM

Thank you everone for you input

Cindy18
by Silver Member on Mar. 20, 2014 at 8:29 PM
I agree. It's done.
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