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21 Worst Things You Can Say to a Mom of a Child With Autism

Posted by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:15 PM
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21 Worst Things You Can Say to a Mom of a Child With Autism

by Adriana Velez

mom covering earsWhen it comes to being a mom of a child with autism, one big frustration is dealing with other people. You know who I mean -- people who just. Don't. Get it. Some mean well but are simply ignorant, while others are clearly suffering from Compassion Deficit Disorder. Either way, it's still appalling what comes out of their mouths sometimes. We wish everyone would just think before sharing their two cents. Here's a few of the worst things moms of kids with autism have ever heard.

1. You need to learn how to control that your kid.

2. Maybe all he really needs is a good spanking.

3. Autism is over-diagnosed, you know.

4. Your child has autism? There's an app for that.

5. She doesn't act/look like she's got autism to me.

6. Autism is just an excuse for bad behavior.

7. What's the big deal? All kids are like that.

8. Why don't you put him in a special home?

9. He couldn't have autism, he's too cuddly and sweet.

10. Back in my day, we didn't have this autism because we actually knew how to discipline our kids.

11. You had her vaccinated, didn't you. You know that's what causes autism, right?

12. You probably didn't breastfeed long enough.

13. What's his "special" thing that he's really good at?

14. There isn't anything wrong with your kid. You're just a crappy parent.

15. Oh my kid does that all the time, too. It's just a 3-year-old thing.

16. I'm sorry.

17. He'll grow out of it.

18. You just want that diagnosis for your kid so you can send her to a better school.

19. You just need to make your child listen to you.

20. Too bad you'll never be a grandmother.

21. I don't think your child will ever be a productive member of society.

What's the worst thing anyone's ever said to you about parenting a child with autism?

by on Apr. 8, 2014 at 3:15 PM
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letstalk747
by Joy on Apr. 8, 2014 at 9:27 PM

i havent had anyone say anything as of yet , i have a look about me that i think no one goes there around me

buckeyefever
by on Apr. 9, 2014 at 3:09 AM

I have had them say he can't be autistic he is to friendly and loveable. I have just learned to brush it off  because not all autistic kids are the same and for that matter they are not the monsters that some make them out to be.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Apr. 9, 2014 at 4:53 AM

I hate all of those!!!

mommyof7921
by Member on Apr. 9, 2014 at 5:44 PM

oh my just reading this makes me angry I hope no one ever says any of these things about my little one.

Cindy18
by Gold Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 5:56 AM

#5 and #21 were the worst things someone has said to me. 

coleysmama
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 6:09 AM
The only ones I've heard are 5 and 15 and I took no offense because it was said because of ignorance not to be malicious.
The other things I've only heard on cafemom from the bullies and extremely stupid. I don't ever deal with that in my everyday life.
SnortysMom
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 4:43 PM

My DH had a co-worker tell him that autism was just a made up condition. My DH pretty much told him to pull his head out of his ass. lol

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