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Alyssa update and need advice

Posted by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:52 PM
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I havent been in here awhile, but I did want to update everyone (the ones that might remember me, lol).  Alyssa is at a new school in an sdc class instead of being mainstreamed like she was the last two years.  Last year was very very rough so we all made the decision to get her into an environment with alot less pressure.  Right now there is only about 12 kids in her class instead of the 34 she had.  There is a teacher and an aide wheareas in her old class there was jus the teacher.  New class is 1-3 grades.  And she is doing great on her adhd meds.  Thats the update.  Things have been going pretty good, you can tell she is starting to make some connections in her brain by what she is saying and she is starting to actually understand things better.  However,  an ongoing problem is she keeps thing people (mainly kids) are calling her stupid so she lashes out.  Most of the time her brother gets the brunt of it.  Today she took it to another level.  She said this boy called her stupid.  Teacher wrote home a note saying that the boy was just laying in the grass at lunch recess and Alyssa kicked him really hard in the back, and he had trouble breathing after that.  She says he was mean and called her stupid.  Not sure how to handle this.  She knows that doing things like that is wrong, but she keeps doing it.  This is the first time she has actually seriously hurt someone.

by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:52 PM
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mandee1503
by Amanda on Nov. 5, 2014 at 8:57 AM
*hugs* could hallucinations or hearing voices be a side effect of her medicine?
alyssasmommy312
by Angela on Nov. 5, 2014 at 9:19 AM

its possible, but she was thinking people were calling her stupid before we started the meds.  Going to take her to school this morning and maybe sit in on the class a little.  I havent observed yet since I wanted the her teacher and her to develop their own 'relationship' without my interferance .

MamaLauri
by Silver Member on Nov. 5, 2014 at 10:00 AM

Welcome back and hugs.

She is probably imagining it in their body language or actions, then mixing up it in her recall. Unfortunately many feel sped kids are retarded including many teachers. So she has probably heard it, and feels partly bad being in a sped class.

She needs to learn not to falsely accuse. Explain how she would feel if she was falsely accused. Foolish Fox is a classic children's tale you could read with her.

Then she needs to understand that learning disability is about learning differences, not stupidity. This will need to be re-enforced repeatably, because she will constantly be exposed to the opposite view. See http://www.addadult.com/add-education-center/famous-people-with-adhd/.Try to find children biographies on those people.

arkansasmama08
by Gold Member on Nov. 5, 2014 at 10:24 AM
Maybe she feels like she is stupid because of struggling so much last year. Or maybe someone teased her or said something that she took as them saying she was. Either way, she definitely needs some help getting a handle on her anger.
letstalk747
by Ruby Member on Nov. 5, 2014 at 11:48 AM

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Quoting MamaLauri:

Welcome back and hugs.

She is probably imagining it in their body language or actions, then mixing up it in her recall. Unfortunately many feel sped kids are retarded including many teachers. So she has probably heard it, and feels partly bad being in a sped class.

She needs to learn not to falsely accuse. Explain how she would feel if she was falsely accused. Foolish Fox is a classic children's tale you could read with her.

Then she needs to understand that learning disability is about learning differences, not stupidity. This will need to be re-enforced repeatably, because she will constantly be exposed to the opposite view. See http://www.addadult.com/add-education-center/famous-people-with-adhd/.Try to find children biographies on those people.


alyssasmommy312
by Angela on Nov. 5, 2014 at 12:00 PM

thank you

MamaLauri
by Silver Member on Nov. 7, 2014 at 10:33 AM
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Another book about the negative impact of falsely accusing is Beatrix Potter’s Tale of TimmyTiptoes. A read-alongversion is at http://www.4mylearn.org/Bookshelf/Read2You2/html/TimmyTiptoes.html

This and many of other read-along versions of Beatrix Potter’s classic books are at

http://www.4mylearn.org/Bookshelf/Bookshelf.html#bigBooks

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