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Single moms!!!!

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2018 at 2:51 PM
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HOW the heck do you do it?! Please share some insight.
I have 6 kids in my house, ds4 has been diagnosed ADHD, dmdd, and autism. The autism diagnosis is new still. He's currently in 2 therapies, one goes to him at school. And we may be adding 3 more to that list, 2 of which I'd have to take him to. He's in prek right now and MIGHT be going to kinder next year (we have an IEP meeting Friday and plan to discuss it with them as me, his dad, and his primary therapist don't feel he's at all ready for kinder.)
I was working a full time job and it was incredibly difficult, we were fortunate that at that time he had his regular therapy in home. He's since been denied those services, we are appealing the decision but it can take up to a year. I was laid off from that job while I was looking for something else because of ds4s appointments with therapy and specialists causing issues at work.
I found a job I thought would be great, during the interview she asked how many hours I was looking for I told her 20-35 a week and she said "perfect." They super flexible about me taking days off for appointments, I just have to put it on the calendar by Thursday of the week before and it's no issue. Well since I started 2 months I've hit 20 hours once, the past few weeks I've gotten 5-11 hours a week! It just isn't cutting it for us but I know there isn't another place that'll allow me to work within my available hours and take off at random for appointments. I like my job. I like that she doesn't schedule me past 5 pm (daycares and after school programs close at 6) and she minimizes my weekends (can't find, or afford, a babysitter) but I cant afford so few hours. I talked to her last week about my hours and she knows I need them but doesn't have room to add me for more hours on the schedule.
I have no support system, anyone I'm close to lives out of state so I'm truly on my own. I don't know how to handle it all.
by on Jan. 30, 2018 at 2:51 PM
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meigemann
by on Feb. 21, 2018 at 5:04 PM

Hello,

I was exactly where you are at one point in my life. I worked a job that I needed to leave every single day. I was blessed to work for an understanding company but needed the hours because I too am the sole supporter of my children. I wish I could give you a magic answer on how I did it but honestly when I look back I can only say it was by the grace of God. I am still a single mother, I'm now raising my adult son with special needs and I'm getting ready to graduate with my masters in Social Work. Sometimes the struggles that we are in are actually preparation for something far greater. I know that statement won't pay your bills but hang in there because this is only a season. Once you get all the therapies squared away and you get into a routine you seem to kick into autopilot. I'm not sure what state you live in by check into assistance within your state. Often times kids with special needs qualify for SSI payments which could help suppliment some of your income. Hopefully some of this was helpful...just know you're not alone and I'll be prayng for you.

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