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Ah, my story. I dont know where to start honestly. Well, to start out I do not actually have a husband. I have a wife. Didn't expect that, did you? We got married while it was still legalized in our state. Well, we adopted before we got married so we've been with our Rose for what feels like forever. I've always told her that I wanted to have a child, but neither of us even wanted to be pregnate. Whenever I brought it up, I would think of the excruciating pain that other moms have spoken of when they had their children, so we both decided on adopting. There were many different children, and I felt bad that I couldn't adopt them all. Eventually, we came upon our little darling. She was so kind, but she had bruises all over her arms. (Who would do that to her? Seriously, people these days.) I remember when I asked her what her name was and she simply replied with "I don't have a name." like it was normal to be nameless. Gosh, I still get a tear in my eye remembering that. My wife Victoria wanted a boy in the beginning but she ultimately agreed on adopting little Rose. Her name came to me so easily, since she's such a sweet and beautiful little flower, metaphorically. That was when I adopted Rose, aka one of the best days of my life.
Our story started after we had to put our beloved dog down. It got my husband thinking about how short life is and the fact that we had not been able to have our own children, we decided we should adopt. We looked into China and Ukraine. We decided on Ukraine because we did not want a baby and did not want to wait two years for China. About 9 months after we signed the papers, we got the call to travel to Ukraine. We got our appointment to look at the books and they showed us a couple of children, but none of them seemed to suit my husband, so he asked if there were any more. They pulled a picture of our daughter and my husband said, "that's the one". It was our darling Deonna 9 years old. After adopting her we did not want her to be an only child, so we decided to try the USA and we adopted a 12 year old boy from Warren, Pennsylvania, our darling Jake. After we came home, our daughter announced that she had an older brother in Ukraine. After having spent 6 weeks in Ukraine and seeing how poor the country was, I knew I had to move heaven and earth to get this boy here. After much searching, we found him and managed to adopt him 4 years later at 16. We have been this crazy family for 4 1/2 years and never looked back. We are now fostering a 17 year old girl.
Cheryle A. Roberts
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