Wie did it the adotion is done and I am now the mother of 4 instead of one. No more inlaws unspoken threat to take the kids. No more playing nice with BM. They are ours ..... our rules!!!!
Doing the happy dance all day.
If you did a kinship adoption... do you celibrate like non kinship adoptions or do you feel like you are selibration a family members misery? Im fillin a little bittersweet today.
My Df and I are going to try and get our niece and two nephews because of a terrible situation and them ending up in the system. And as soon as we can get them. I'm going to plan a great party to celebrate a new beginning of all of our lives :)
I've felt bittersweet with all ours. We've done one non-fictive kinship and 2 via traditional foster - one considered also non-fictive kinship because we'd adopted her older half sister.
The happiness that the children are secure and won't be placed back into situations that are unhealthy and unsafe at best is huge. The sadness that in our cases, the birthmoms/families would not step up and get it together. And the sadness that our children NEEDED their birthfamilies to meet their needs - I feel that's a primal need and the knowledge that they didn't and wouldn't makes me sad.
But, I also feel immense joy that they're forever ours and forever safe and forever in the eyes of the law what they already were in our hearts.
We celebrate the binding together of our family. :)
Congrats - CELEBRATE!! :)
Adoption Books.. Advice on good ones
- Halokittie
on Aug. 19, 2011 at 1:30 AM