I was reading about this in an adoption book and I was wondering if anyone who has adopted has experienced perfect parent syndrome. With a biological child you don't have to market yourself as a perfect parent. With adoption you basically are telling the world you will be a wonderful parent and you tell the birth parent why they should choose you over so many other interested couples. Do any of you feel guilt or sadness when you do something in your parenting that you wish you hadn't because of this reason. Does your parenting match what kind of parent you promised to be?