Derek's bf asked us to adopt Derek, but it was important to him that his family be allowed contact and the day he surrendered he insisted I sign a paper to that effect. I wrote something vague about Derek knowing who his bf's family is. At this point Derek doesn't know any of them including his bf who hadn't visited him for two years at the time of the surrender. He didn't want to have an official postadoption agreement which is the only valid and enforceable agreement in my state, but even still I have would allowed them occasional supervised visits. I set up a fb account using an alter with his sister so we could keep in touch. She had sent me a message saying she and her mother were happy about the adoption. Well. I just realized that we have heard nothing from them this Christmas. BF's sister used to send a card and bgrandmother sent a gift every birthday and Christmas. I haven't heard from his sister on the fb account either. The last was this summer when she told me her son was diagnosed autistic and she wanted to let me know to pass that on to Derek's dr. Last time I wrote to her, she didn't answer. BF called for Derek's birthday this summer and wanted a visit, but said he was busy and would call back to arrange it which never happened. When bf called me about his child support case and I confirmed the adoption was final, he said he respected us as Derek's parents and would just go to light contact, like checking now and then to see how he is.
So now what? I haven't added any more pictures and updates on Derek since she stopped writing to me. At some point can I just close the account? That was nothing specified, I just did it to be nice. I don't want to do anything dishonorable since I agreed to let Derek have contact with them, but if they have no contact with him does that end the agreement between us? What if a year or more passes and they want visits?