Yesterday was our first adoption class. It was pretty informative but it kind of felt like they were pushing us to have a completely open adoption and we do not want that. When we get home my husband had a facebook message from bm saying that if I am not happy with our daughters medical issues we can give her back and that I am completely ungreatful. Our birthparents want to see her every chance they can get. We feel as though right now is a crucial time for us to bond with our child and I am a new mom.(she is my first child, dh has 3 boys from a previous marriage) I don't know what to do anymore and I am tired of all of the empty threats.(neither of the bp have any parental rights, they surrendered them voluntarily) I am going to talk to our lawyer about what can be done in the situation, because I have enough stress going through and adoption, raising 4 kids, we are in the process of buying a house and we both work all of the time. What would be your suggestions for this situation? Has anyone experienced anything like this?