I am an adoptee (is that how you say it?).I know children get adopted for different reason and each story is different. But I was curious about how different adoptive moms feel about your adoptee child or children meeting there birth mom? And if you are ok what age would you be ok? My adoption was a close adoption. So I know nothing about a open adoption. But I was curious about my birth mom around 1st or 2nd grade growing up. But I really felt like I need to know in my early teens. So my mom let me find my birth mom when I was either 13 or 14. She had died the year before the form cancer. Now my mom never stopped me from finding her I could tell it make her worried. But my mom is ok with it now days. So I was curious about other adoptive moms think on this. I can understand that it could be scary for yall. I also understand not all adopted story are because of nice reason. That the child went through some really scary stuff. So they would not want to see them again. Please don't anwser if you don't want too. I am curious and that curious nature of mine I sometime don't understand that I make them uncomfortable.