Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Adoptive Moms Adoptive Moms

School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom! What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

Posted by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 12:43 PM
  • 208 Replies
1 mom liked this

School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom

Posted by Jeanne Sager

CorsagePop quiz time! Amanda Dougherty is 17 years old, and she just got dumped by her prom date. But her school has told her she can't go stag, because young ladies need a male escort in order to go to prom.

Now for the quiz part. Is Amanda Dougherty a 17-year-old in 1950? Or 2012? What? You said 2012? Let me tell you what you've won!

Your prize is to live in a world where the "war on women" that Fox is busy pretending doesn't exist is being waged against teenage girls, and their parents' attempts to teach them that there are more important things in this world than teenage boys!

Dougherty is a junior at the Archbishop John Carroll High School in the Philadelphia area, and the school is holding firm on its rules that girls need a male (come on, it's a religious school, that kind of goes without saying) date to prom. Fortunately for her, this 17-year-old girl has what every teenage girl needs: a father who understands that this type of patriarchal thinking puts girls back six decades. Jack Dougherty is fighting tooth and nail to get his little girl access to prom with the rest of her friends and without a guy on her arm. Yay Dad!

But I'm still floored that he has to fight this battle with any school, much less a religious one. And the way the school has referred to the prom as a "special social event" with this type of rules makes it clear that the school defines a students' worth based on their ability to couple up rather than something useful like, oh, I don't know ... their educational prowess, their behavior, their humanity?

Essentially, what a rule like this one does is undo all the work parents put into teaching their kids that there is much more to life than the approval of the opposite sex. Dating is fine in the teen years; I did it. I see nothing wrong with it. But we want to teach our kids -- both girls and boys -- that there is nothing wrong with being unattached, that their worth is in no way tied to whether or not they are home on Friday night or out parking.

I'd rather my daughter never have a boyfriend than date a guy because that's what society -- or backward school administrators -- are telling her she "has" to do. She's a person; her worth should be based on her, not who she dates (or doesn't). And the same goes for Amanda Dougherty.

What does this rule say to you? What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 12:43 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
jen1130
by Bronze Member on Apr. 24, 2012 at 1:54 PM
19 moms liked this
What does FOX have to do with this story? Or did I miss something?

Posted on CafeMom Mobile
feralkitten
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 2:12 PM
6 moms liked this

so what happen if a guy wants to go on his own would he be allowed

SarahSuzyQ
by Sarah on Apr. 24, 2012 at 2:18 PM
5 moms liked this
I can't believe this is the whole story...
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
meam4444
by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 3:20 PM
4 moms liked this

Exactly what I was thinking--feels like something is missing.

Quoting SarahSuzyQ:

I can't believe this is the whole story...


mcginnisc
by Claire on Apr. 24, 2012 at 3:31 PM
2 moms liked this

Hmmm... holes much? 

Claire

Moderator: Healthy Weight Loss & Adoptive Moms

" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Phillipians 4:13

Join theAdoptive Moms group

aprilz1225
by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2012 at 4:23 PM
1 mom liked this

 what?????????? this makes no......whaaat???? there is alot going on in this we don't know....

AnotherPutra
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:08 AM
6 moms liked this

I would throw my daughter and her friends their own prom in our backyard if her school did that. What do they say about boys going alone to prom?

manda-nicole010
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:09 AM
4 moms liked this

I'd be pissed and would be fighting the school as well! 

EmilyMarshall
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:12 AM
I'd be pissed


Firenygirl180
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:17 AM
3 moms liked this

I brought my friends younger sister with me to Junior prom.  My school didn't require dates, as long as you paid for your ticket you could go.

I think it is ridiculous that she has to have a male escort.  The school is forcing her to have someone to take her.  Will they require them to sit together and dance together too?  She should be able to go and hang out with her friends.  If my school had this policy, most of the kids wouldn't have gone to prom.  

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)