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School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom! What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

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School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom

Posted by Jeanne Sager

CorsagePop quiz time! Amanda Dougherty is 17 years old, and she just got dumped by her prom date. But her school has told her she can't go stag, because young ladies need a male escort in order to go to prom.

Now for the quiz part. Is Amanda Dougherty a 17-year-old in 1950? Or 2012? What? You said 2012? Let me tell you what you've won!

Your prize is to live in a world where the "war on women" that Fox is busy pretending doesn't exist is being waged against teenage girls, and their parents' attempts to teach them that there are more important things in this world than teenage boys!

Dougherty is a junior at the Archbishop John Carroll High School in the Philadelphia area, and the school is holding firm on its rules that girls need a male (come on, it's a religious school, that kind of goes without saying) date to prom. Fortunately for her, this 17-year-old girl has what every teenage girl needs: a father who understands that this type of patriarchal thinking puts girls back six decades. Jack Dougherty is fighting tooth and nail to get his little girl access to prom with the rest of her friends and without a guy on her arm. Yay Dad!

But I'm still floored that he has to fight this battle with any school, much less a religious one. And the way the school has referred to the prom as a "special social event" with this type of rules makes it clear that the school defines a students' worth based on their ability to couple up rather than something useful like, oh, I don't know ... their educational prowess, their behavior, their humanity?

Essentially, what a rule like this one does is undo all the work parents put into teaching their kids that there is much more to life than the approval of the opposite sex. Dating is fine in the teen years; I did it. I see nothing wrong with it. But we want to teach our kids -- both girls and boys -- that there is nothing wrong with being unattached, that their worth is in no way tied to whether or not they are home on Friday night or out parking.

I'd rather my daughter never have a boyfriend than date a guy because that's what society -- or backward school administrators -- are telling her she "has" to do. She's a person; her worth should be based on her, not who she dates (or doesn't). And the same goes for Amanda Dougherty.

What does this rule say to you? What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 12:43 PM
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Hesmynavyman
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:19 AM
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I would have to talk to the school board that would not be okay with me. Many girls go together these days as a group no guy for them! Hey isn't it more safe anyway no broken condoms, missed pills or pregnancy! eye rolling

xsbnix
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:33 AM

 i believe it.. my high school had the same rule.. my sr year in 2006 there was a girl who wanted to go but didnt have a date and they wouldnt sell her a ticket because they said the "rule" was all guests MUST be escorted by a date. pretty much she couldnt go unless she had a date which had to be a guy. Her friends date decided he would take her and her friend together and they had to allow it because no where did it say that they couldnt share a date. but since then they did away with that rule and now singles can go to prom but when they do their grand march with the couples the singles are not permitted in that ceremony.. so currently they have parents fighting that... its all crazy lol

raven1114
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 12:38 AM
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I'd fight it. That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. they're basically teaching them that they have no worth unless they are coupled with someone else.

t_creanskisa
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:08 AM

thats sucks. can her dad be her date? does she have a brother?

 

annelauer
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:19 AM
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Quoting jen1130:

What does FOX have to do with this story? Or did I miss something?

If you don't understand what Fox News has to do with this, you need to wake up and turn it off.  Wow!

ariesp19
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:46 AM
2 moms liked this

 what about the boys, must they have a female date?

i dont agree with this at all..... prom is not a special date only dance, its a 'im a senior' dance.... and uperclasmen dance.......

bellawomen
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:21 AM

Seriously GO DADDIO!!!   I would be raising hell and also wonder if that school is really a place I want to influence my daughters and sons.  Women are equals, like it or not.

Cutiebear_Annie
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:29 AM

Thats like telling a young girl society says you have to have a man and have one now instead of encouraging young girls to enjoy being young and single. That will all come in time. My cousin and I aren't blood because I am adopted but my cousin escorted me to my prom since I didn't have anyone special to go with. I didn't want to miss out on Prom regarless but like I said as society shouldn't we be teaching especially girls that it's okay to have a boyfriend but it's also okay to have a part of individuality within themselves without the pressure of having to have a man by their side. But I would be mad cause I have two precious girls and if they were told they couldn't go um most likely I would be complaining to the shcool district and if they didn't listen I would go higher up.

Azzura
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 3:10 AM
I would remove my daughter from the school. I honestly don't understand their rationale for upholding this rule, am I to understand that single males are not allowed to attend prom either? Or is it just the females that are illegitamate without a male companion?
coreilly89
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 3:14 AM
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I would get a female date, then. And raise a big hoopla over the inequity of the school.

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