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School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom! What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

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School Bans Girls Without Dates From Going to Prom

Posted by Jeanne Sager

CorsagePop quiz time! Amanda Dougherty is 17 years old, and she just got dumped by her prom date. But her school has told her she can't go stag, because young ladies need a male escort in order to go to prom.

Now for the quiz part. Is Amanda Dougherty a 17-year-old in 1950? Or 2012? What? You said 2012? Let me tell you what you've won!

Your prize is to live in a world where the "war on women" that Fox is busy pretending doesn't exist is being waged against teenage girls, and their parents' attempts to teach them that there are more important things in this world than teenage boys!

Dougherty is a junior at the Archbishop John Carroll High School in the Philadelphia area, and the school is holding firm on its rules that girls need a male (come on, it's a religious school, that kind of goes without saying) date to prom. Fortunately for her, this 17-year-old girl has what every teenage girl needs: a father who understands that this type of patriarchal thinking puts girls back six decades. Jack Dougherty is fighting tooth and nail to get his little girl access to prom with the rest of her friends and without a guy on her arm. Yay Dad!

But I'm still floored that he has to fight this battle with any school, much less a religious one. And the way the school has referred to the prom as a "special social event" with this type of rules makes it clear that the school defines a students' worth based on their ability to couple up rather than something useful like, oh, I don't know ... their educational prowess, their behavior, their humanity?

Essentially, what a rule like this one does is undo all the work parents put into teaching their kids that there is much more to life than the approval of the opposite sex. Dating is fine in the teen years; I did it. I see nothing wrong with it. But we want to teach our kids -- both girls and boys -- that there is nothing wrong with being unattached, that their worth is in no way tied to whether or not they are home on Friday night or out parking.

I'd rather my daughter never have a boyfriend than date a guy because that's what society -- or backward school administrators -- are telling her she "has" to do. She's a person; her worth should be based on her, not who she dates (or doesn't). And the same goes for Amanda Dougherty.

What does this rule say to you? What would you tell your daughter if her school had this attitude?

by on Apr. 24, 2012 at 12:43 PM
Replies (41-50):
PinkParadox
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:41 AM

That's ridiculous!

AllofFive19
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 AM

No, he would need a male escort too, lol.

Quoting feralkitten:

so what happen if a guy wants to go on his own would he be allowed


AnnaNonamus
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:53 AM
She attends a religious school. The laws and rules are different. If the father was all right with this when they signed her up, he should be fine with it now.

I son't agree that it should be rule at all, but if my child attended a religious school, I would expect and familiarize myself with the rules before signing them up.
colins_mom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:55 AM

my friends school had a similar issue. they had a red carpet that was the entryway for prom and people could walk in alone, male/female, female/female, but no male/male. my friend is very gay and took me to prom while one of our other friends took my friends bf so that they could go together (bf wasnt a student and neither was i.)

jen1130
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:09 AM
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The cool thing about our Country is choice of religion!!! I would never date a guy who follows a religion I don't want to share.


Quoting mik1of3:

What would I say?  "I told you Catholics had a screwed up mentality!  Good thing you go to this school strictly for the academics...now you know who NOT to marry!" And I would deduct the cost of her dress, flowers, ticket, etc from my montly tuition check.  If they claim that isn't part of their policy, then I would respectfully ask them to show in the handbook of policies, procedures, and rules where, exactly, it states that no student can go stag to a prom.  Goose, meet gander.
I was engaged to a helluva guy when I was younger...he was in the army, and I was ready to be an army wife.  However, he was a CATHOLIC soldier, and during our meeting with his priest, I was told I had to convert.  Nope, I said, I'm perfectly happy being a Lutheran.  Then, I was told I had to promise to raise our kids Catholic.  Nope, I said, we'll alternate churches.  They'll be confirmed in Catholicism at eight or whatever, then, if they decide they want to be confirmed in the Lutheran religion, we'll do that too.  The priest said do you plan on getting married in the Catholic church?  I said, Nope.  We plan on getting married on the beach, with my lifelong Lutheran pastor (the one who baptised me) and hopefully you.  He said if we did that, our marriage would not be recognized in the eyes of the Catholic church, our children would be 'bastards', and he wouldn't do it.  I said, fine.  Mark, my fiancee, was initially okay with what I said...but his mom got ahold of him..and in the end, we broke up. 
I just can't imagine a school behaving this way.  My daughter's school (yes, it's Lutheran) will let the kids come stag, or hell, they can bring as many of their outside friends with them to prom...as long as the kids are dressed properly, have tickets and behave, the more the merrier.  A lot of kids come stag, and just float from group to group.


Honestly, though, I can't say I'm surprised.  The Catholic church seems to operate on a plane opposite most normal people...esp where women and children are concerned.


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annelauer
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:16 AM
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Quoting jen1130:

I watch fox almost every day but last week at this week have been a little crazy for me.... Was this on fox news? I would be happy to look it up online today if you could tell me what day it was on.
Have you ever watch fox news? Or did you just hear someone tell you it's evil?
I am kind of one of those people who thinks for them self oh and guess what I have 7 kids I am raising the same way.




Quoting annelauer:



Quoting jen1130:

What does FOX have to do with this story? Or did I miss something?



If you don't understand what Fox News has to do with this, you need to wake up and turn it off.  Wow!


I have watched it.  Then I did research and found the facts.  They rarely correlate.  Also, they skip reporting on important events if they don't match the right-wing agenda.  Feel free to watch it.  Just realize it is far from "fair and balanced".  And watching it regularly shows that you are probably not the "think for yourself" kind of woman you view yourself to be.  The point of their network is that they tell you what to think so that you don't have to do any thinking or bother with any facts for yourself.  

Also, if you read the post, you will see that what it has to do with Fox News is that they are pretending that women's rights are not being oppressed.  Apparently, even that you can't interpret without someone telling you what to think.  Good luck to you and your seven children.

jessi2girls
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:25 AM

If the school wouldn't change their policy, while I would obviously fight against the prejudice of it, I would go as far as creating a prom for her and all her other classmates that were single.   I wouldn't let my daughter miss prom because the school wants to be sexist.

However the school they are going to isn't like that, so I don't forsee a problem. After all, I went to that school, and I went to my jr prom stag because i dumped my date the day before lol.

StevensCare4u
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:26 AM

 say your lesbian! they arent allowed to discriminate!

a5hl3yC
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:29 AM

I went with a girl does this count?

notjstanothrmom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:32 AM

Wow! What a boring prom. If that happened where I live we would have our own MUCH better prom.

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