We have adopted 1 child recently and will finalize on our 2nd child in a couple of weeks. We are going to have an adoption celebration so that all of our friends and family can come meet our lil guys and we have a reason to have a big get together! Some people have asked us where we've registered at. Well we haven't actually. So I'm really stuck on what to do. They boys are both 2. Do we register somewhere with things that we need? If so, how do we let people know without it seeming like we are seeking gifts (we most definitely are not!)? And if we don't and people want to give them gifts, how do we tell them not to? I generally go along the lines of 'don't disrespect someone by refusing a gift they chose for you', but feel so odd about this situation. Also, one more thing to add...most people know that one of sons has autism and needs some special educational and sensory stuff beyond the 'norms' and that the other one is delayed. Both have to have special services, which are costly.
What are your thoughts? I don't want to offend people!