"What would I be without you mom"

[DJAKoala]

My son got me thinking when he said this to me.
My son just turned 10 on June 17, Among two Birthday parties,family and school friends(pool party). I brought him to Toy R Us tonight to use a gift card. I also bought him some extras, he has been so good. I felt like rewarding him for an awesome school year, promoting to 5th grade.
As we walked through the store, he says to me. "You are the best mom ever" " What would I be without you"? I almost slipped and said what was on my mind. I just smiled and said I am so proud of you.
In reality where would our children be or become if they have not been adopted. My sons both had horrific pasts with abuse,severe neglect. I would wonder if they would still be alive,healthy happy.
My boys are so lovable, always have manners,many other people comment how well behaved and respectful they are. Don't get me wrong, they are NOT perfect, they each have their challenges and can test my patience. They are loved unnconditionaly.

[Malley]

That is so sweet. My dd tells people her birthparents gave her life, but her adoptive parents gave her A life. She says she can't imagine what her life would have been like but imagines she might have been dead. :(

[djmkmom]

You so "get" it with adoption!  Unconditional love is what they need and it can be hard.  I have two very different boys that we adopted at 4 and 6, one continually tells me how wonderful I am and the other says he loves me and then when he is angry I get the I hate you's and you are not my real mother.   But I just look at him and tell him that he can never push my love away, even when he is rotten LOL!  One day, it will sink in for him too.

[meam4444]

Aww how sweet.  I look forward to being able to share my love and time to another child when it comes time.

[Hyacinth72]

Kleenex moment. I got so teary eyed reading this. You have done a swell job by him. Good job mama.

[DJAKoala]

 

Quoting Hyacinth72:

Kleenex moment. I got so teary eyed reading this. You have done a swell job by him. Good job mama.

 Thank you, I am truely blessed to have my boys.

[SarahSuzyQ]

Thank you for sharing, Debbie. I know exactly what you mean, it's hard to think about where these boys might otherwise be... But God in his wisdom intended YOU to be the mommy they would need, to love and cherish them and to be loved in return. How awesome that your son can articulate just a piece of that. Very sweet.

[LucyHarper]

I know that my husband could have been an excellent parent on his own, my husband is his biological father, I was his stepmom who adopted him, but if he were left with his biological mother, it honestly scares me to death to think about where he would be right now. Honestly, based on the past, he most likely wouldn't be alive right now. He is loved, healthy, and happy, a beautiful sweet child, that could have all been crushed even if he wasn't harmed, just from the way he was treated and the lack of affection he was given.