Just to get you up to speed...we do foster care and this year have adopted 2 two year olds. We hadn't planned on adopting any others any time soon. We have a girl who is 12 in our foster home, who already has paternal rights severed. She was moved from a home that she was in for 3 years because they wanted to take a child they had previously. She is MR/DD and has been diagnosed with autism. So far, she has done well this past month since we got her. She came to us as a 'severe behavior child' and they were guarded as saying her placement would last.
So up to today...
Her social worker called to check in and get some information. She then said she had a conference call coming up with a family out of state that wanted more information on T.
MY HEART SANK! I have no idea why, had never imagined hearing those words so soon, and no idea how I'd respond. When I told my partner, she also had the blood drain from her face and a sinking heart. This felt so much like when the told us we couldn't adopt Kendrick and I have no idea what to do, say, or anything. I never thouht we'd consider adopting a 12 year old but right now, I can't imagine letting her go out of state, away from her brother (who is being adopted by another family) or anything of the sort.
Thoughts or suggestions? In addition to the MR/DD and Autism, she has been dianosed as RAD, ADHD and she was adopted at 3 and then they relinquished a year ago. So she's had one failed adoption already.