Answering stupid questions...

[lori3636]

Do you get angry when people ask dumb questions about adoption? Do you feel the need to educate? Does it make you mad when people tell you how lucky your baby is?

And does anyone know how to post anonymously?

Thanks!!!

[Isaacsmom913]

No more so than those who are uneducated about infertility

[Malley]

 Mad is too strong of a word, but I do get aggravated when I hear the same comments over and over.

[jen1130]

When people say how lucky our kids are I know they are giving a complement. I always just reply with we are a lucky family.

I hate it when we get why do you want so many kids.
Or the 1 that really gets me MAD it why adopt someone else's problems. I do let them know it's the bio parents who were the problem not the kids.

[SarahSuzyQ]

Most of the time, I don't get mad. I DO want to educate people. We have many children in need of a home in this country, whether a temporary home or a forever family. If I can help another family think about foster care, I'm all for it.

But I do get frustrated with prying questions. My son's story is not public property, just because he's in foster care... So it's definitely a balancing act.

[mcginnisc]

I don't get mad IRL. I have no problem educating people about International Adoption. There are many misconceptions out there about adoption as a whole, so I do my best to inform others about those misconceptions. 

We don't get many comments though. We've only had a handful over the past 5 years that our daughter has been home.

[aprilz1225]

I don't mind it's just when the same ppl ask the same question everytime.. it's like pay attention.

[3mom627]

Our first adoption was International and a family member commented as to why we didn't adopt through the USA.  Our second child was from the USA, so that shut them up.  We are trying to foster now and are frustrated by the lack of children. We are from PA and I am seriously considering trying neighboring states.

[lori3636]

Can you foster from neighboring states??

[meam4444]

While I have yet to adopt, many of my friends and family know we are planning on pursuing adoption in the near future.  We have had a few "off" comments (i.e. why do we want to adopt since we already have four bio children...or as some people would say our "own" children, etc..), but I guess I always took it as an opportunity to educate on what I know about...like Claire said, it is about misconceptions is what I am finding it to be..and I am sure once we get on the path moreso we will have many more comments too.

[Momma2JandK]

It always amazes me when I hear people say that they are frustrated with a lack of foster kids available.  We've been fostering for more than 2 years currently and have yet to have a bed open for more than a week.  It doesn't matter if they kids are on our 'preferred list' for placements, we get calls about them all.  I've wondered if it is a difference between state foster care or privatized foster care, which here in KS we have privatized.  This last time, we had a bed open for 10 days and I think that was the longest time, however we had at least 3 phone calls in that time which we turned down due to behavior concerns that may have put our other children in jeopardy. 
The last placement we took, they forgot to mention that we could only have 2 children, including her, who are in foster care due to her level of need.  I was a bit irritated with that, but that's okay, she's doing really well with us.

Quoting 3mom627:

Our first adoption was International and a family member commented as to why we didn't adopt through the USA.  Our second child was from the USA, so that shut them up.  We are trying to foster now and are frustrated by the lack of children. We are from PA and I am seriously considering trying neighboring states.