So I've tried my best to keep my adopted daughter's adoption open with biomom, but I honestly don't know if I can deal with it anymore. I've given this woman extra visits, money, send her pictures all the time, even let her call the house..I bend over backwards all the time trying to keep peace and she is nothing but rude ALL THE TIME. She's made comments to my young daughter before saying that I'm "mean". She just finished telling my daughter about how "evil people called Social Workers stole" her and that's why they don't live together....really? because my daughter almost died because this bio"mom" was so neglectful. I've always thought it was best to let children have contact with biofamily if they wanted to but EVERYTIME we see her or tallk to her, I'm starting to feel more and more like I'm going TO SNAP!
I've tried setting up really specific rules like she's not allowed to say anything negative about me, not allowed to talk about certain subjects that upset my daughter, etc... She will NOT follow these rules! It's hard because more than half the time my daughter enjoys seeing her so I don't know what to do at all. We have bad visits, or bad phone calls where my daughter will want to leave early or something, but that's only sometimes. USUALLY my daughter is excited to see/talk to her.
I'm sorry for kindof ranting but if anyone has any advice, please please give it. I have no one in my life that understands this situation.